Individuation: stumbling toward emotional self-reliance

Maybe the most obvious way to talk about individuation is to say that, in the context of my marriage, if there was a bad feeling, I would look to my spouse to help me with it. Over the years, this mean that basically I held him at least partially responsible for my sense of well-being. Then, suddenly, my sense of well-being was very much my responsibility alone… and ultimately, it always was.

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Offbeat Resilience: now on Insta and Offbeat Home & Life

Hey, Homies! Some of you may have noticed some shifts in our posts here on offbeathome.com.

Catherine and I have been making some changes with how we're managing the editorial on Offbeat Home & Life, and I figured I'd give a little bit more background about what's going on…

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Microdosing pain: how to make things suck less, by sucking more

The truth of my anxiety is revealed: I invested all my time in building little walls all over the place to try to shelter myself from pain, but what I was actually doing was denying myself opportunities to learn and become more capable.

So what if I choose to expose myself to pain in small doses so that I can get better at managing it?