February 11, 2019 I took my daughter to therapy with me I try to speak openly about my battle with depression, and it is the time of year where I tend to be at my worst. This season is no different, and the last few weeks have been a struggle to accomplish my day-to-day tasks. Still, even with my attempts to be open and unashamed of my mental health, it was hard to bring my daughter to therapy with me. I never had the intention of bringing her. However, I had my usual therapy session scheduled on one of her approximately 148 snow days this year. My first thought was to cancel the session, but I realized the only reason I was going to do this was some ambiguous sense of discomfort… Read More 2.5k January 9, 2019 My child was sexually harassed on the school bus & the reality set in Yesterday should have been a normal day. It started off that way. But instead it became a first for my eldest daughter. My daughter asked a boy to stop using profanities, and instead, he used them more and more, especially directed at her. And then he threatened her, repeatedly. When the bus did stop, she ran as fast as she could and into my arms. Her whole body shook with fear and anger. That was the day our daughter became the victim of sexually violent language. She is ten years old. The boy was twelve. She was riding the school bus home from fifth grade. Read More 2.9k 24 Comments October 29, 2018 When kids books go bad: how Mr. Men and Little Miss teach kids to hate themselves There are a lot of books that I enjoyed as a child that dismay me as an adult. I try not to be a loud feminist killjoy too often, but occasionally I come out of hiding from my lair, like when I read this outdated series of books that somehow ended up in my house and has been taken up by my son with great enthusiasm… Read More 1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More 1.0k May 17, 2018 How do you handle a relative giving religious education to your child without you? My mother-in-law knows I'm a non-religious person. It's been the subject of very awkward conversations and loaded questions and hasn't always gone well. The first question from her upon learning her son and I were pregnant was, "Can I take the baby to church?" But she knows my parenting plan of exposing my child to all religious options. Has anyone tread this road before, and have any advice on how to handle it? What language do I use to make it clear I don't want my toddler being pushed into a certain religion before she's old enough to understand? Read More 123…26
2.5k January 9, 2019 My child was sexually harassed on the school bus & the reality set in Yesterday should have been a normal day. It started off that way. But instead it became a first for my eldest daughter. My daughter asked a boy to stop using profanities, and instead, he used them more and more, especially directed at her. And then he threatened her, repeatedly. When the bus did stop, she ran as fast as she could and into my arms. Her whole body shook with fear and anger. That was the day our daughter became the victim of sexually violent language. She is ten years old. The boy was twelve. She was riding the school bus home from fifth grade. Read More 2.9k 24 Comments October 29, 2018 When kids books go bad: how Mr. Men and Little Miss teach kids to hate themselves There are a lot of books that I enjoyed as a child that dismay me as an adult. I try not to be a loud feminist killjoy too often, but occasionally I come out of hiding from my lair, like when I read this outdated series of books that somehow ended up in my house and has been taken up by my son with great enthusiasm… Read More 1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More 1.0k May 17, 2018 How do you handle a relative giving religious education to your child without you? My mother-in-law knows I'm a non-religious person. It's been the subject of very awkward conversations and loaded questions and hasn't always gone well. The first question from her upon learning her son and I were pregnant was, "Can I take the baby to church?" But she knows my parenting plan of exposing my child to all religious options. Has anyone tread this road before, and have any advice on how to handle it? What language do I use to make it clear I don't want my toddler being pushed into a certain religion before she's old enough to understand? Read More 123…26
2.9k 24 Comments October 29, 2018 When kids books go bad: how Mr. Men and Little Miss teach kids to hate themselves There are a lot of books that I enjoyed as a child that dismay me as an adult. I try not to be a loud feminist killjoy too often, but occasionally I come out of hiding from my lair, like when I read this outdated series of books that somehow ended up in my house and has been taken up by my son with great enthusiasm… Read More 1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More 1.0k May 17, 2018 How do you handle a relative giving religious education to your child without you? My mother-in-law knows I'm a non-religious person. It's been the subject of very awkward conversations and loaded questions and hasn't always gone well. The first question from her upon learning her son and I were pregnant was, "Can I take the baby to church?" But she knows my parenting plan of exposing my child to all religious options. Has anyone tread this road before, and have any advice on how to handle it? What language do I use to make it clear I don't want my toddler being pushed into a certain religion before she's old enough to understand? Read More 123…26
1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More 1.0k May 17, 2018 How do you handle a relative giving religious education to your child without you? My mother-in-law knows I'm a non-religious person. It's been the subject of very awkward conversations and loaded questions and hasn't always gone well. The first question from her upon learning her son and I were pregnant was, "Can I take the baby to church?" But she knows my parenting plan of exposing my child to all religious options. Has anyone tread this road before, and have any advice on how to handle it? What language do I use to make it clear I don't want my toddler being pushed into a certain religion before she's old enough to understand? Read More 123…26
1.0k May 17, 2018 How do you handle a relative giving religious education to your child without you? My mother-in-law knows I'm a non-religious person. It's been the subject of very awkward conversations and loaded questions and hasn't always gone well. The first question from her upon learning her son and I were pregnant was, "Can I take the baby to church?" But she knows my parenting plan of exposing my child to all religious options. Has anyone tread this road before, and have any advice on how to handle it? What language do I use to make it clear I don't want my toddler being pushed into a certain religion before she's old enough to understand? Read More 123…26