January 4, 2021 Why only you can heal you (and why that's fucking awesome) Here's how anxious attachment works: you grow up confusing the sensation of chasing attention with the feeling of love. We adapted so well to unpredictable attention that it’s what we crave. Relationships that don’t involve chasing can feel boring… Read More 23k 26 Comments November 11, 2019 One woman answers the question: should I stay in a marriage without chemistry? I wrote the Offbeat Home post I'm not attracted to my husband: Marriage without chemistry? in 2013. [One of the most popular posts on Offbeat Home & Life, of all time. -Ed] After 6 years of working on myself, finding myself, and trying to do absolutely everything I could to save the marriage… I finally had the strength to call it quits. Read More 2.2k 16 Comments October 14, 2019 My husband has chronic health issues, so I can't get boned I read the Offbeat Home post about "Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us," and I hate to be a downer, but this is so much harder when you are in a monogamous heterosexual relationship… Read More 5.0k 49 Comments March 4, 2019 My wedding sucked so badly that I can't even look at the photos. How do I move on? Somewhere in my house, there is a CD. My spouse knows where it is, but I do not. Intentionally. This CD contains our wedding photos. I can't bear to look….. Read More February 25, 2019 Throwback style for days with these retro roller rink party photos (with an engagement shoot!) This engagement shoot just reminded me so much of retro birthday parties that I felt like readers over here would dig it so hard. It's the ultimate roller skating meets rock 'n' roll meets nostalgia party inspiration. Plus, I think so many of us grew up having roller rink parties that this is all SO FAMILIAR. The zeitgeist, y'all… Read More 2.5k 11 Comments February 18, 2019 Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us (& how we're making it work) What is sexual compatibility? Insecurity made our life a little rocky early on. I worried that my partner's asexuality was simply disinterest in me, while she worried that I might prefer someone else. But after nearly seven years together, we've ironed that out — and in the process, built a sex life that we both find satisfying, exploring a non-traditional definition of sex. Here are the tools that we use to help us to define sex for ourselves… Read More 123…46
23k 26 Comments November 11, 2019 One woman answers the question: should I stay in a marriage without chemistry? I wrote the Offbeat Home post I'm not attracted to my husband: Marriage without chemistry? in 2013. [One of the most popular posts on Offbeat Home & Life, of all time. -Ed] After 6 years of working on myself, finding myself, and trying to do absolutely everything I could to save the marriage… I finally had the strength to call it quits. Read More 2.2k 16 Comments October 14, 2019 My husband has chronic health issues, so I can't get boned I read the Offbeat Home post about "Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us," and I hate to be a downer, but this is so much harder when you are in a monogamous heterosexual relationship… Read More 5.0k 49 Comments March 4, 2019 My wedding sucked so badly that I can't even look at the photos. How do I move on? Somewhere in my house, there is a CD. My spouse knows where it is, but I do not. Intentionally. This CD contains our wedding photos. I can't bear to look….. Read More February 25, 2019 Throwback style for days with these retro roller rink party photos (with an engagement shoot!) This engagement shoot just reminded me so much of retro birthday parties that I felt like readers over here would dig it so hard. It's the ultimate roller skating meets rock 'n' roll meets nostalgia party inspiration. Plus, I think so many of us grew up having roller rink parties that this is all SO FAMILIAR. The zeitgeist, y'all… Read More 2.5k 11 Comments February 18, 2019 Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us (& how we're making it work) What is sexual compatibility? Insecurity made our life a little rocky early on. I worried that my partner's asexuality was simply disinterest in me, while she worried that I might prefer someone else. But after nearly seven years together, we've ironed that out — and in the process, built a sex life that we both find satisfying, exploring a non-traditional definition of sex. Here are the tools that we use to help us to define sex for ourselves… Read More 123…46
2.2k 16 Comments October 14, 2019 My husband has chronic health issues, so I can't get boned I read the Offbeat Home post about "Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us," and I hate to be a downer, but this is so much harder when you are in a monogamous heterosexual relationship… Read More 5.0k 49 Comments March 4, 2019 My wedding sucked so badly that I can't even look at the photos. How do I move on? Somewhere in my house, there is a CD. My spouse knows where it is, but I do not. Intentionally. This CD contains our wedding photos. I can't bear to look….. Read More February 25, 2019 Throwback style for days with these retro roller rink party photos (with an engagement shoot!) This engagement shoot just reminded me so much of retro birthday parties that I felt like readers over here would dig it so hard. It's the ultimate roller skating meets rock 'n' roll meets nostalgia party inspiration. Plus, I think so many of us grew up having roller rink parties that this is all SO FAMILIAR. The zeitgeist, y'all… Read More 2.5k 11 Comments February 18, 2019 Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us (& how we're making it work) What is sexual compatibility? Insecurity made our life a little rocky early on. I worried that my partner's asexuality was simply disinterest in me, while she worried that I might prefer someone else. But after nearly seven years together, we've ironed that out — and in the process, built a sex life that we both find satisfying, exploring a non-traditional definition of sex. Here are the tools that we use to help us to define sex for ourselves… Read More 123…46
5.0k 49 Comments March 4, 2019 My wedding sucked so badly that I can't even look at the photos. How do I move on? Somewhere in my house, there is a CD. My spouse knows where it is, but I do not. Intentionally. This CD contains our wedding photos. I can't bear to look….. Read More February 25, 2019 Throwback style for days with these retro roller rink party photos (with an engagement shoot!) This engagement shoot just reminded me so much of retro birthday parties that I felt like readers over here would dig it so hard. It's the ultimate roller skating meets rock 'n' roll meets nostalgia party inspiration. Plus, I think so many of us grew up having roller rink parties that this is all SO FAMILIAR. The zeitgeist, y'all… Read More 2.5k 11 Comments February 18, 2019 Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us (& how we're making it work) What is sexual compatibility? Insecurity made our life a little rocky early on. I worried that my partner's asexuality was simply disinterest in me, while she worried that I might prefer someone else. But after nearly seven years together, we've ironed that out — and in the process, built a sex life that we both find satisfying, exploring a non-traditional definition of sex. Here are the tools that we use to help us to define sex for ourselves… Read More 123…46
February 25, 2019 Throwback style for days with these retro roller rink party photos (with an engagement shoot!) This engagement shoot just reminded me so much of retro birthday parties that I felt like readers over here would dig it so hard. It's the ultimate roller skating meets rock 'n' roll meets nostalgia party inspiration. Plus, I think so many of us grew up having roller rink parties that this is all SO FAMILIAR. The zeitgeist, y'all… Read More 2.5k 11 Comments February 18, 2019 Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us (& how we're making it work) What is sexual compatibility? Insecurity made our life a little rocky early on. I worried that my partner's asexuality was simply disinterest in me, while she worried that I might prefer someone else. But after nearly seven years together, we've ironed that out — and in the process, built a sex life that we both find satisfying, exploring a non-traditional definition of sex. Here are the tools that we use to help us to define sex for ourselves… Read More 123…46
2.5k 11 Comments February 18, 2019 Asexuality and queerness redefined sex for us (& how we're making it work) What is sexual compatibility? Insecurity made our life a little rocky early on. I worried that my partner's asexuality was simply disinterest in me, while she worried that I might prefer someone else. But after nearly seven years together, we've ironed that out — and in the process, built a sex life that we both find satisfying, exploring a non-traditional definition of sex. Here are the tools that we use to help us to define sex for ourselves… Read More 123…46