August 6, 2018 Wait, DON'T smash the patriarchy — its pieces are seeds Recently I've become really uncomfortable with the term "smashing the patriarchy." Not in the comfort-zone-pushing way, but in the misaligned-self-betrayal way. So I've stopped using it. Because you know who runs around smashing shit? The patriarchy. If we look seriously at the situation, I think we find that to "smash" the patriarchy is to recreate it. Read More 2.0k 10 Comments July 20, 2018 I changed my last name and now I regret it. What should I do? When I got married, I didn't want to keep my name because I grew up with an abusive father. My husband is deeply connected to his last name and didn't want to change, so I took his name. Now I hate that I changed my name because I associate it with his parents, and they aren't very good people, and I feel stuck. Any advice? Read More June 27, 2018 An interview with writer/performer/fashion maven Travis Alabanza Travis Alabanza is a London-based performance artist, writer, and fashion gurl. Released in 2017, Travis’ stunning chap book, Before I Step Outside (You Love Me) documents the experience of navigating public space as a trans person. Let's hear what motivates Travis in fashion, writing, and performance… Read More 1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More April 25, 2018 Looking inward teaches me to accept myself as I am During yoga last night, I was instructed to look inward, to close my eyes and only see myself. To look inward toward myself for satisfaction. I spent the entire hour with my eyes closed just doing what felt right in my body and not trying to compete with the girl on the mat next to me. That simple choice to keep my eyes closed and look inward was incredibly awakening. It inspired me. Read More 123…18
2.0k 10 Comments July 20, 2018 I changed my last name and now I regret it. What should I do? When I got married, I didn't want to keep my name because I grew up with an abusive father. My husband is deeply connected to his last name and didn't want to change, so I took his name. Now I hate that I changed my name because I associate it with his parents, and they aren't very good people, and I feel stuck. Any advice? Read More June 27, 2018 An interview with writer/performer/fashion maven Travis Alabanza Travis Alabanza is a London-based performance artist, writer, and fashion gurl. Released in 2017, Travis’ stunning chap book, Before I Step Outside (You Love Me) documents the experience of navigating public space as a trans person. Let's hear what motivates Travis in fashion, writing, and performance… Read More 1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More April 25, 2018 Looking inward teaches me to accept myself as I am During yoga last night, I was instructed to look inward, to close my eyes and only see myself. To look inward toward myself for satisfaction. I spent the entire hour with my eyes closed just doing what felt right in my body and not trying to compete with the girl on the mat next to me. That simple choice to keep my eyes closed and look inward was incredibly awakening. It inspired me. Read More 123…18
June 27, 2018 An interview with writer/performer/fashion maven Travis Alabanza Travis Alabanza is a London-based performance artist, writer, and fashion gurl. Released in 2017, Travis’ stunning chap book, Before I Step Outside (You Love Me) documents the experience of navigating public space as a trans person. Let's hear what motivates Travis in fashion, writing, and performance… Read More 1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More April 25, 2018 Looking inward teaches me to accept myself as I am During yoga last night, I was instructed to look inward, to close my eyes and only see myself. To look inward toward myself for satisfaction. I spent the entire hour with my eyes closed just doing what felt right in my body and not trying to compete with the girl on the mat next to me. That simple choice to keep my eyes closed and look inward was incredibly awakening. It inspired me. Read More 123…18
1.1k June 15, 2018 "Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child? My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically). How do you explain gender to a four-year-old? Read More April 25, 2018 Looking inward teaches me to accept myself as I am During yoga last night, I was instructed to look inward, to close my eyes and only see myself. To look inward toward myself for satisfaction. I spent the entire hour with my eyes closed just doing what felt right in my body and not trying to compete with the girl on the mat next to me. That simple choice to keep my eyes closed and look inward was incredibly awakening. It inspired me. Read More 123…18
April 25, 2018 Looking inward teaches me to accept myself as I am During yoga last night, I was instructed to look inward, to close my eyes and only see myself. To look inward toward myself for satisfaction. I spent the entire hour with my eyes closed just doing what felt right in my body and not trying to compete with the girl on the mat next to me. That simple choice to keep my eyes closed and look inward was incredibly awakening. It inspired me. Read More 123…18