December 10, 2018 Requiem for Tumblr: pouring one out for a fat-positive space for nudes Besides being a huge blow to sex workers and LGBTQ people, Tumblr’s recent decision to ban adult content from its platform is a misguided form of censorship that will remove an outlet of self-expression for those who fall outside of typical Western beauty standards. There was something else, though, and that something is what I and I think many other people will miss most now that Tumblr has moved to ban adult content from its site… Read More 1.0k December 5, 2018 Will Tumblr's adult content ban be catastrophic for sex work and queer communities? Tumblr announced that they are going scorched earth with pornographic content by removing it from the site entirely. Tumblr's decision feels very much like a condemnation of sex work and pornography as a whole, and specifically ends up targeting marginalized groups who rely on the site in a number of ways. For those of us who don't have a problem with safe, consensual sex work, this has the appearance of making it unnecessarily harder for folks to make a living online. For others, it feels like the only way to save the children (why won't somebody think of the children?!). Read More September 10, 2018 The roots of white privilege and what we must do to recognize it I recently had an experience with myself that brought me up short and let me know that — smack! — it was time to do some more reading. Anyone who has done any form of serious healing work in their lives knows that our patterns and wounding show up again and again and again, and it is up to us to recognize the roots and continue to pull them out as best we can. One way we can find the roots is by seeing the fruits. What are we growing in our lives? What kinds of symptoms do we have that tell us about the health of our own bodies and the environments we're in? For these things to be meaningful and informative, we must look at them. Read More 1.0k August 6, 2018 Wait, DON'T smash the patriarchy — its pieces are seeds Recently I've become really uncomfortable with the term "smashing the patriarchy." Not in the comfort-zone-pushing way, but in the misaligned-self-betrayal way. So I've stopped using it. Because you know who runs around smashing shit? The patriarchy. If we look seriously at the situation, I think we find that to "smash" the patriarchy is to recreate it. Read More 2.2k 10 Comments July 20, 2018 I changed my last name and now I regret it. What should I do? When I got married, I didn't want to keep my name because I grew up with an abusive father. My husband is deeply connected to his last name and didn't want to change, so I took his name. Now I hate that I changed my name because I associate it with his parents, and they aren't very good people, and I feel stuck. Any advice? Read More 123…18
1.0k December 5, 2018 Will Tumblr's adult content ban be catastrophic for sex work and queer communities? Tumblr announced that they are going scorched earth with pornographic content by removing it from the site entirely. Tumblr's decision feels very much like a condemnation of sex work and pornography as a whole, and specifically ends up targeting marginalized groups who rely on the site in a number of ways. For those of us who don't have a problem with safe, consensual sex work, this has the appearance of making it unnecessarily harder for folks to make a living online. For others, it feels like the only way to save the children (why won't somebody think of the children?!). Read More September 10, 2018 The roots of white privilege and what we must do to recognize it I recently had an experience with myself that brought me up short and let me know that — smack! — it was time to do some more reading. Anyone who has done any form of serious healing work in their lives knows that our patterns and wounding show up again and again and again, and it is up to us to recognize the roots and continue to pull them out as best we can. One way we can find the roots is by seeing the fruits. What are we growing in our lives? What kinds of symptoms do we have that tell us about the health of our own bodies and the environments we're in? For these things to be meaningful and informative, we must look at them. Read More 1.0k August 6, 2018 Wait, DON'T smash the patriarchy — its pieces are seeds Recently I've become really uncomfortable with the term "smashing the patriarchy." Not in the comfort-zone-pushing way, but in the misaligned-self-betrayal way. So I've stopped using it. Because you know who runs around smashing shit? The patriarchy. If we look seriously at the situation, I think we find that to "smash" the patriarchy is to recreate it. Read More 2.2k 10 Comments July 20, 2018 I changed my last name and now I regret it. What should I do? When I got married, I didn't want to keep my name because I grew up with an abusive father. My husband is deeply connected to his last name and didn't want to change, so I took his name. Now I hate that I changed my name because I associate it with his parents, and they aren't very good people, and I feel stuck. Any advice? Read More 123…18
September 10, 2018 The roots of white privilege and what we must do to recognize it I recently had an experience with myself that brought me up short and let me know that — smack! — it was time to do some more reading. Anyone who has done any form of serious healing work in their lives knows that our patterns and wounding show up again and again and again, and it is up to us to recognize the roots and continue to pull them out as best we can. One way we can find the roots is by seeing the fruits. What are we growing in our lives? What kinds of symptoms do we have that tell us about the health of our own bodies and the environments we're in? For these things to be meaningful and informative, we must look at them. Read More 1.0k August 6, 2018 Wait, DON'T smash the patriarchy — its pieces are seeds Recently I've become really uncomfortable with the term "smashing the patriarchy." Not in the comfort-zone-pushing way, but in the misaligned-self-betrayal way. So I've stopped using it. Because you know who runs around smashing shit? The patriarchy. If we look seriously at the situation, I think we find that to "smash" the patriarchy is to recreate it. Read More 2.2k 10 Comments July 20, 2018 I changed my last name and now I regret it. What should I do? When I got married, I didn't want to keep my name because I grew up with an abusive father. My husband is deeply connected to his last name and didn't want to change, so I took his name. Now I hate that I changed my name because I associate it with his parents, and they aren't very good people, and I feel stuck. Any advice? Read More 123…18
1.0k August 6, 2018 Wait, DON'T smash the patriarchy — its pieces are seeds Recently I've become really uncomfortable with the term "smashing the patriarchy." Not in the comfort-zone-pushing way, but in the misaligned-self-betrayal way. So I've stopped using it. Because you know who runs around smashing shit? The patriarchy. If we look seriously at the situation, I think we find that to "smash" the patriarchy is to recreate it. Read More 2.2k 10 Comments July 20, 2018 I changed my last name and now I regret it. What should I do? When I got married, I didn't want to keep my name because I grew up with an abusive father. My husband is deeply connected to his last name and didn't want to change, so I took his name. Now I hate that I changed my name because I associate it with his parents, and they aren't very good people, and I feel stuck. Any advice? Read More 123…18
2.2k 10 Comments July 20, 2018 I changed my last name and now I regret it. What should I do? When I got married, I didn't want to keep my name because I grew up with an abusive father. My husband is deeply connected to his last name and didn't want to change, so I took his name. Now I hate that I changed my name because I associate it with his parents, and they aren't very good people, and I feel stuck. Any advice? Read More 123…18