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Let's be careful fat shaming public figures (yes, even Trump)

We definitely want our leaders to be physically and mentally able to take on the huge burdens of leading. But if you're at all familiar with the Fat Acceptance Movement, you'll know that being concerned about the weight of others can lead to discrimination, bias, and detrimental health and mental health effects. So when I heard the term "girther" as a play on words for "birther" regarding Donald Trump's presumed (by some) falsified weight in this last physical exam, I bristled…

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How the Aziz Ansari accusation highlights differences in consent among the generations

I've been a fan of Aziz Ansari for years. So when I saw his name pop up in the headlines attached to a sexual encounter, my heart dropped. The issue wasn't whether she was believed or "right" for me, it was how responses in the media seemed very much divided by age. And where we go from here when it's not a cut and dry issue of power structures, but rather how consent is dealt with between all of us. Here's how I'm seeing responses in the different generations…

Being broken doesn't mean you're not strong (and capable of being loved)

To love someone who has been broken is a brave thing to do. We have lived a life most know nothing about. To the broken, love is a scary and volatile concept. Love isn't sunshine and roses but thorns and monsoons. To the broken, yelling and raised voices are a part of a typical conversation and something to which we are accustomed. But being broken can be beautiful and strong… and you're capable of being loved.

Rockabilly & pin-up maternity clothing for retro mamas

"Help! I'm looking for pin-up maternity clothes that don't suck!" While some online stores don't sell exclusively pin-up style, there are a few that have items that can easily fit into a retro-inspired wardrobe. Look for wrap dresses, stretchy wiggle dresses, and vintage tunics that can work for most of your pregnancy depending on the level of stretch and cling you like. Here are a few sites that carry
rad pin-up maternity clothing…

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Stoner vs Smartphoner: Examining compulsions and finding they're not what you'd think

The year after my divorce, I dated a guy who was completely sober. It wasn't really an issue for me, since I'm barely a social drinker, and my inebriation of choice is smoking a little pot a couple of times a week. But this guy was concerned. After a couple of months, he asked me straight out: had I ever considered that I might have a substance abuse issue with marijuana?

Recent Home

This epic doggy dream house has everything a pooch needs

Insta-famous pooch Eggnog the Bulldog lives the high life with his amazing doggy dream house. It's fully equipped with a hydration station, a ramp up to her humans' bed, a hidey hole with sleeping cushions, color changing, Alexa-driven lights, a storage area for all her toys, and has her name right on it. It is truly a ramp house of which puppy dreams are made.

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I was robbed while I was at home and it changed me forever

I was sleeping, but some rustling noises woke me up and I unconsciously reacted to them by jumping out of bed and running into the living room, where the noises were coming from. Them BAM! There he was — a hugely tall guy one foot away from me, in the middle of tearing through my living room.

I was being robbed.

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My favorite items from the new Amazon home lines

Amazon's doing some pioneering with their new ways to buy clothing (Prime wardrobe!) and housewares. I'll save the clothing for next time and focus on their two new exclusive housewares lines that channel minimalism and industrial-chic in pretty cool ways. Have you seen them yet?!

Here are a few of my favorite pieces in both collections so far…

Recent Life

Let's be careful fat shaming public figures (yes, even Trump)

We definitely want our leaders to be physically and mentally able to take on the huge burdens of leading. But if you're at all familiar with the Fat Acceptance Movement, you'll know that being concerned about the weight of others can lead to discrimination, bias, and detrimental health and mental health effects. So when I heard the term "girther" as a play on words for "birther" regarding Donald Trump's presumed (by some) falsified weight in this last physical exam, I bristled…

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How the Aziz Ansari accusation highlights differences in consent among the generations

I've been a fan of Aziz Ansari for years. So when I saw his name pop up in the headlines attached to a sexual encounter, my heart dropped. The issue wasn't whether she was believed or "right" for me, it was how responses in the media seemed very much divided by age. And where we go from here when it's not a cut and dry issue of power structures, but rather how consent is dealt with between all of us. Here's how I'm seeing responses in the different generations…

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Stoner vs Smartphoner: Examining compulsions and finding they're not what you'd think

The year after my divorce, I dated a guy who was completely sober. It wasn't really an issue for me, since I'm barely a social drinker, and my inebriation of choice is smoking a little pot a couple of times a week. But this guy was concerned. After a couple of months, he asked me straight out: had I ever considered that I might have a substance abuse issue with marijuana?

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#MeToo pissed me off until I looked inside to see why

When I checked Facebook, nearly every status said or referred to #MeToo. I felt annoyed at the whiplash of public consciousness, that we were constantly ping-ponged from tragedy to tragedy. I assumed it would die out within a few days when something else came up for everyone to angst about online. Obviously, I was wrong. Instead of dying out, #MeToo has grown and started a cultural shift so grand and overdue and amazing that it still feels too good to be true. Women are rising and abusive men are falling. Still, instead of celebrating, I felt disgust. I had to finally sit down and journal about this to try to figure out why. As I wrote, I peeled back the layers of my reaction.

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How to dress as a goth in a corporate workplace

If you're into goth fashion and also starting a new job and need to slowly introduce yourself to unfamiliar coworkers, it can be a challenge to merge your style with their corporate culture. Or maybe you've been unsure about how much of your true fashion self you really can express at work, and you're looking to combine your work and play wardrobes more. Here's what I've learned about how to dress as a goth at work…

Recent Food

The Force is strong with these party food ideas for your Last Jedi party

Join me on the Dark Side to nosh on these Last Jedi party recipes for the premiere THIS WEEK! We'll finally be released from our carbonite to see the next movie in the reboot franchise, The Last Jedi. Are you excited, young padawans?! I am, both for the movie and for this roundup of geektastic Star Wars recipes.

Let's start planning the shopping list for all kinds of junk (and maybe not-so-junky) food to make a bunch of nerdy Star Wars recipes like Leia buns, blue milkshakes, and Wookiee cookies…

I tried that weird Thanksgiving leftovers cake and it actually worked!

Have you seen that weird mashup of Thanksgiving food that Chow made into a big cake?

I decided to see if it lived up to the hype in an adapted, and probably more palatable mini version in a Thanksgiving leftovers cake. The most surprising part? It actually worked AND it was tasty. Plus, it's just weird and that makes it all the better.

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Throw this creepy but elegant goth dinner party

When planning this super creepy goth dinner party, I wanted to avoid the kitschy, usual food you see at Halloween parties: the hot dog "fingers," the mummy pigs in a blanket… I wanted food that was elegant and still tasty!

These are the creepy things I will serve you if you ever come to eat at my house…

Recent People

Being broken doesn't mean you're not strong (and capable of being loved)

To love someone who has been broken is a brave thing to do. We have lived a life most know nothing about. To the broken, love is a scary and volatile concept. Love isn't sunshine and roses but thorns and monsoons. To the broken, yelling and raised voices are a part of a typical conversation and something to which we are accustomed. But being broken can be beautiful and strong… and you're capable of being loved.

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How non-traditional couples break the whole argument for traditional gender roles

In my research about gender roles, I found disturbing personal anecdotes about the NEED for gender roles. One bit of commentary in particular that stuck out to me most blatantly discredited couples planning to share responsibilities in and out of the home. If it is God’s will for men to almost always be the sole providers, where does my partner fit in? My partner was born with a physical disability. There are physical limitations to what he can do. Does that mean he doesn’t qualify to be a conventionally providing husband? And if so, does that mean he isn’t made by God to fulfill the "role" of a man?

Here's how my family forces us to confront traditional gender roles…

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Will I be left out in my own home due to a language barrier with my kids?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and marriage is in the very near future as well as probable kids. I am white and my boyfriend is Hispanic, and he speaks both fluent English and Spanish. He has recently said that he wants his future children to learn Spanish. However, this makes me worried. Most of his immediate family speaks Spanish and they hardly include me in conversations. So I worry that if it happens now, it will only be 10x worse when it is in our household with the kids and my connection to them won't be as strong.

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Here's an amazing way to make finding out about Santa a little easier

Unless you decide to be transparent about the myth up front, there comes a point where you've got to come clean to your kids about Santa before they find out from friends or older siblings.

I recently spied this method that I HAD to share since it's so good. with it, you're allowing your children to learn about Santa in a less trust-breaking way, all while encouraging empathy and generosity that can live on every day after…

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Second marriage is not a dirty word: finding new love and marriage after divorce

Divorce is an ugly and catastrophic personal experience. You have to find a way to let go of the past and move forward, learning from what you have been through. The next relationship may be scary, the possibility of finding a happily ever after could be dismal. But finding happiness is worth the risk of letting someone in. I withstood divorce and came out on the other side, so I thought I would give you a few reasons why you shouldn't give up on love or marriage after divorce…

Recent Pets

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I tried a a pet camera to spy on my kitties and it was comedy gold

I was able to get my hands on a fancy-pants pet camera (Thanks, Ariel!) that had wifi, night vision, two-way audio, motion detection, a phone app, notifications, and even a treat dispenser!

But this wasn't just a webcam — this was supposed to be a state-of-the-art surveillance swat team of a camera that also allows me to taunt coo at my kitties while rewarding them for chilling out in front of the camera. Here's how my pet camera trial went down…

This epic doggy dream house has everything a pooch needs

Insta-famous pooch Eggnog the Bulldog lives the high life with his amazing doggy dream house. It's fully equipped with a hydration station, a ramp up to her humans' bed, a hidey hole with sleeping cushions, color changing, Alexa-driven lights, a storage area for all her toys, and has her name right on it. It is truly a ramp house of which puppy dreams are made.

Following the "lead": how you AND your dog can be more active together

Our lives are often sedentary, and those of us with dogs know that they can get on that bandwagon, too. In spite of their innate need to move and play, our dogs often find themselves sitting on the same sofa we ourselves sit on. It's easy for all of us to become couch potatoes together. Here are some easy ways to make exercising with dogs more enjoyable for everyone…

Start your own colony: 8 benefits of keeping exotic invertebrates as pets

Whether you want something short-lived, cheap-to-buy and easily looked after by your kids, or you want something clean, silent and scent-free to brighten up your home, you could do a lot worse than diving into the wonderful world of pet invertebrates. You might even discover a new passion that you never realized you even had!

Recent Do It Yourself

Last minute no-carve pumpkin ideas for Halloween (geeky, chic, or cute as hell!)

It's almost Halloween, you've got kids coming over (or adults for pumpkin-flavored cocktails!), and you're so not in the mood to start carving and de-gooping pumpkins. I'll be honest, I'm almost never in the mood, outside of when I can roast those seeds. Yum.

But if you're not down with pulling out pumpkin guts and want something a little shmancier than simply painting them one color, here are some rock 'n' roll, glam AF, and easy as (pumpkin) pie no-carve pumpkin ideas…

The cold never bunny'd me anyway: How to DIY this Elsa bunny for Easter

I'm knitting Easter bunnies for my daughters and nephews this year. I decided that rather than get each kid a new stuffed bunny each year (which is what we've done up to this point) I'd just make them new clothes each year.

Since my two year old nephew is completely obsessed with Frozen (and really all Disney princesses) I decided to make him an Elsa Bunny…

Recent Shopping

Rockabilly & pin-up maternity clothing for retro mamas

"Help! I'm looking for pin-up maternity clothes that don't suck!" While some online stores don't sell exclusively pin-up style, there are a few that have items that can easily fit into a retro-inspired wardrobe. Look for wrap dresses, stretchy wiggle dresses, and vintage tunics that can work for most of your pregnancy depending on the level of stretch and cling you like. Here are a few sites that carry
rad pin-up maternity clothing…

This LED skirt twinkles like the night sky!

Get a load of this discovery, y'all. This LED skirt has 250 tiny LEDs enmeshed in an ombre blue skirt with a pattern based on an actual star chart. You'll be wearing the night sky and twinkling the shit out of everyone.

Your Star Wars premiere party will never be the same wearing this bad boy.

Rainbow-hued & colorful holiday cards to brighten up mailboxes everywhere

If you're just getting to sending out those holiday cards to your nearest and dearest, you may be stumped for what kind to send. Might we suggest: sugar brightly hued, rainbow covered, and intensely merry holiday cards? From unicorn-pulled sleighs to "reinbows" (yep, that's a portmanteau for rainbow reindeer!) to making the yuletide gay rainbow-style, there are colorful holiday cards in your future.

Let's find the best colorful card for you on this long winter's night. Er day. Whenever you're reading this…

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My favorite items from the new Amazon home lines

Amazon's doing some pioneering with their new ways to buy clothing (Prime wardrobe!) and housewares. I'll save the clothing for next time and focus on their two new exclusive housewares lines that channel minimalism and industrial-chic in pretty cool ways. Have you seen them yet?!

Here are a few of my favorite pieces in both collections so far…

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