UPDATE 2020: This writing has been migrated to The Afterglow, my members-only private publication. Join today and get instant access to this post, and so much more. Previous A letter to my goddaughter about religion Next How to dress as a goth in a corporate workplace About the Author: Ariel @findyourafterglow Author of three editions of the Offbeat Bride book and From Shitshow To Afterglow, Ariel Meadow Stallings acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives in Seattle with her son, and if she's not writing or scrolling, chances are good that she's dancing or happy-crying. To follow her latest work, join join The Afterglow, for exclusive access to essays, videos, online courses, and more.