October 19, 2018 Book club: Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram The Enneagram is not especially cool right now. It came to popularity in the US in the '70s, and while astrology has gotten a breath of fresh air through the social justice lens of folks like Chani Nicholas, there's no similarly hot new take on The Enneagram. So this is not new, and it's not hip. But you know what? This book cracked some things WIDE open for me… Read More 13 Comments October 10, 2018 Individuation: stumbling toward emotional self-reliance Maybe the most obvious way to talk about individuation is to say that, in the context of my marriage, if there was a bad feeling, I would look to my spouse to help me with it. Over the years, this mean that basically I held him at least partially responsible for my sense of well-being. Then, suddenly, my sense of well-being was very much my responsibility alone… and ultimately, it always was. Read More 1.1k 10 Comments October 5, 2018 Offbeat Resilience: now on Insta and Offbeat Home & Life Hey, Homies! Some of you may have noticed some shifts in our posts here on offbeathome.com. Catherine and I have been making some changes with how we're managing the editorial on Offbeat Home & Life, and I figured I'd give a little bit more background about what's going on… Read More 1.7k 13 Comments September 26, 2018 Microdosing pain: how to make things suck less, by sucking more The truth of my anxiety is revealed: I invested all my time in building little walls all over the place to try to shelter myself from pain, but what I was actually doing was denying myself opportunities to learn and become more capable. So what if I choose to expose myself to pain in small doses so that I can get better at managing it? Read More 1.2k May 29, 2018 Making mom friends: playgrounds & gonorrhea pee Remember when I wrote about making friends as a grown-up? I talked about putting the work in, being forward and direct, and making plans — not just talking about making plans! Friendships don't "just happen." But sometimes the work that goes into making friends means reaching out to be there for people when they need you. Here's a story… Read More 1234
13 Comments October 10, 2018 Individuation: stumbling toward emotional self-reliance Maybe the most obvious way to talk about individuation is to say that, in the context of my marriage, if there was a bad feeling, I would look to my spouse to help me with it. Over the years, this mean that basically I held him at least partially responsible for my sense of well-being. Then, suddenly, my sense of well-being was very much my responsibility alone… and ultimately, it always was. Read More 1.1k 10 Comments October 5, 2018 Offbeat Resilience: now on Insta and Offbeat Home & Life Hey, Homies! Some of you may have noticed some shifts in our posts here on offbeathome.com. Catherine and I have been making some changes with how we're managing the editorial on Offbeat Home & Life, and I figured I'd give a little bit more background about what's going on… Read More 1.7k 13 Comments September 26, 2018 Microdosing pain: how to make things suck less, by sucking more The truth of my anxiety is revealed: I invested all my time in building little walls all over the place to try to shelter myself from pain, but what I was actually doing was denying myself opportunities to learn and become more capable. So what if I choose to expose myself to pain in small doses so that I can get better at managing it? Read More 1.2k May 29, 2018 Making mom friends: playgrounds & gonorrhea pee Remember when I wrote about making friends as a grown-up? I talked about putting the work in, being forward and direct, and making plans — not just talking about making plans! Friendships don't "just happen." But sometimes the work that goes into making friends means reaching out to be there for people when they need you. Here's a story… Read More 1234
1.1k 10 Comments October 5, 2018 Offbeat Resilience: now on Insta and Offbeat Home & Life Hey, Homies! Some of you may have noticed some shifts in our posts here on offbeathome.com. Catherine and I have been making some changes with how we're managing the editorial on Offbeat Home & Life, and I figured I'd give a little bit more background about what's going on… Read More 1.7k 13 Comments September 26, 2018 Microdosing pain: how to make things suck less, by sucking more The truth of my anxiety is revealed: I invested all my time in building little walls all over the place to try to shelter myself from pain, but what I was actually doing was denying myself opportunities to learn and become more capable. So what if I choose to expose myself to pain in small doses so that I can get better at managing it? Read More 1.2k May 29, 2018 Making mom friends: playgrounds & gonorrhea pee Remember when I wrote about making friends as a grown-up? I talked about putting the work in, being forward and direct, and making plans — not just talking about making plans! Friendships don't "just happen." But sometimes the work that goes into making friends means reaching out to be there for people when they need you. Here's a story… Read More 1234
1.7k 13 Comments September 26, 2018 Microdosing pain: how to make things suck less, by sucking more The truth of my anxiety is revealed: I invested all my time in building little walls all over the place to try to shelter myself from pain, but what I was actually doing was denying myself opportunities to learn and become more capable. So what if I choose to expose myself to pain in small doses so that I can get better at managing it? Read More 1.2k May 29, 2018 Making mom friends: playgrounds & gonorrhea pee Remember when I wrote about making friends as a grown-up? I talked about putting the work in, being forward and direct, and making plans — not just talking about making plans! Friendships don't "just happen." But sometimes the work that goes into making friends means reaching out to be there for people when they need you. Here's a story… Read More 1234
1.2k May 29, 2018 Making mom friends: playgrounds & gonorrhea pee Remember when I wrote about making friends as a grown-up? I talked about putting the work in, being forward and direct, and making plans — not just talking about making plans! Friendships don't "just happen." But sometimes the work that goes into making friends means reaching out to be there for people when they need you. Here's a story… Read More 1234