Book club: Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram

The Enneagram is not especially cool right now. It came to popularity in the US in the '70s, and while astrology has gotten a breath of fresh air through the social justice lens of folks like Chani Nicholas, there's no similarly hot new take on The Enneagram.

So this is not new, and it's not hip. But you know what? This book cracked some things WIDE open for me…

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Individuation: stumbling toward emotional self-reliance

Maybe the most obvious way to talk about individuation is to say that, in the context of my marriage, if there was a bad feeling, I would look to my spouse to help me with it. Over the years, this mean that basically I held him at least partially responsible for my sense of well-being. Then, suddenly, my sense of well-being was very much my responsibility alone… and ultimately, it always was.

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Microdosing pain: how to make things suck less, by sucking more

The truth of my anxiety is revealed: I invested all my time in building little walls all over the place to try to shelter myself from pain, but what I was actually doing was denying myself opportunities to learn and become more capable.

So what if I choose to expose myself to pain in small doses so that I can get better at managing it?