Let me begin by saying that as a bisexual female married to a male mate, I have ridiculous amounts of passing privilege, and I know it.
My mate has questions and would like to discuss gender and identity with people whose identities and experiences are different from his own. The problem is that he is straight, cisgender, and male.
Ironically, I can “pass for queer,” and sit in on such discussions without raising any alarm. My mate, however, is met with open hostility, to the point that he is starting to feel like he can’t say anything. He does not want to offend, but he does want to discuss gender and sexuality with people who are willing to share their perspectives.
When I was in college, there was an amazing “Inappropriate Question Hour” where people agreed to leave their privilege and prejudices at the door in order to educate one another. I haven’t found anything like it since. Does anyone know of any resources or communities where people can participate in the gender and sexuality conversation without fear? -Josie
I’d love to think that we’re one of those safe spaces, but, even if we hired a team of moderators, it can be hard to make sure that it’s a completely safe space. So, where can people who have questions about gender and sexuality ask those questions without judgement?