Wait, DON'T smash the patriarchy — its pieces are seeds

Recently I've become really uncomfortable with the term "smashing the patriarchy." Not in the comfort-zone-pushing way, but in the misaligned-self-betrayal way. So I've stopped using it. Because you know who runs around smashing shit?

The patriarchy. If we look seriously at the situation, I think we find that to "smash" the patriarchy is to recreate it.

I am gender fluid and losing weight. How will I feel about my body after?

I've just recently come to the realization that I am genderfluid. Ever since I was a toddler, I've been this mix of feminine and masculine, insisting on wearing fluffy dresses while playing Power Rangers. I've always felt too masculine to be a girl and too feminine to be a boy.

How do others in the trans and genderqueer community handle physical body changes like weight loss? Does anyone else worry their perception of their own gender, or lack thereof, could change at the end of that particular journey?

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"Are you a boy or a girl?" How do you explain gender to a child?

My kiddo is biologically male, but when kids ask him if he's a boy or girl, he says, "I'm me. I'm a person." Kids, however, don't accept this answer and pester him to the point of tears. I don't know how to tell him the difference between boys and girls, or if I want to tell him that there is a difference at all (besides anatomically).

How do you explain gender to a four-year-old?

You have to see this radically honest YouTube docu-series about race, gender, sexualities, and more

I was introduced to StyleLikeU as a media platform producing "radically honest docu-style videos that give voice to role models of all body-types, ages, races, genders, sexualities, and abilities, who stand proudly outside of norms and are comfortable in their skin, disentangling style from fashion in the process." Um, yes please. This required further investigation since it sounded fairly groundbreaking. I was absolutely not disappointed.