The best way to finalize your breakup: With a bad-ass “self love photoshoot”
When Jessi first approached me about taking some photos for her I jumped at the chance. My first question was “What are we celebrating?” She responded that her divorce was days away from being finalized, and she wanted to end it on a high note instead of crying over spilt milk.
The cold never bunny’d me anyway: How to DIY this Elsa bunny for Easter
I’m knitting Easter bunnies for my daughters and nephews this year. I decided that rather than get each kid a new stuffed bunny each year (which is what we’ve done up to this point) I’d just make them new clothes each year.
Since my two year old nephew is completely obsessed with Frozen (and really all Disney princesses) I decided to make him an Elsa Bunny…
What I’m learning from dancing poorly
Inspired by a local dancer’s athletic performance in a show I saw years ago, I asked her if she would teach me some stuff. She said she would, and then I cried a lot because it’s really hard looking stupid and learning new things. METAPHOR ALERT!
What “are you ready for Spring?!” REALLY means
“Spring is coming, are you ready?” asked the pretty lady on a moped, who happened to pop up on my Facebook feed. Strangely, walking down the street, the same question was asked of me by a billboard, and then a shop window.
Well, yes, thanks for asking, I am ready. This winter has been cold and grey and devoid of snow. And I am so ready for spring.
But then I realized, what they all really meant…
How to find yourself when you’re focused on raising someone else?
Younger mamas, I want you to know that us older mamas are just as befuddled at times as you are. I was in my mid-30s when I had my first child, and I don’t feel as if you ever finish the finding-yourself journey — nor would I want to. It’s part of the joy of being alive.
That said, here’s what’s helped for me to reconnect in areas of my life that need it…
Am I a “lazy femme” or not?: The elusive definition of femme
Did I understand what femme meant? By buying a “Lazy Femme” shirt, was I claiming something that wasn’t mine after all?
With so many different, wide, and varying definitions of femme, this is what settled into the nest of my heart…
Life hack: Turn “should” into “could” for dull chores
It’s really interesting what happens when you turn “should” into “could.” It makes even a shitty chore feel more positive. By re-framing a dull task you should do by using “could” it also makes you consider what opportunities might hide within. For example…
The tricks to getting dressed when your gender is ambiguous
Given my strange gender identity, this means that my outside rarely feels like it’s reflecting myself. It can be frustrating. And depressing. This means I had to develop a few coping mechanisms just to be able to get out the door every day.
So here are my tips for getting dressed when your gender is ambiguous…