The best way to finalize your divorce: With a bad-ass "self love photoshoot" #Life#divorce#photography#self esteem March 24 2017 | Guest post by Carley Fetty All photos by CYork Photography When Jessi first approached me about taking some photos for her I jumped at the chance. We're longtime friends, so I knew her bubbly, creative personality would be a blast to capture. My first question was "What are we celebrating?" She responded that her divorce was days away from being finalized, and she wanted to end it on a high note instead of crying over spilt milk. Related Post Gifts for a friend going through a divorce, separation, or break-up The first few weeks of a separation can be fucking intense. The grief, the loss, even a sense of physical pain... it's weird that something... Read more Now, I've had my share of very serious relationships ending, including a failed engagement, and I'd have killed for half the grace and courage this woman was showing in the face of such a life changing event. We set off talking about what Jessi had in mind for the shoot, and she told me to "take it and run." Let's just say I sprinted… I knew I wanted to make Jessi feel glamorous and fresh, so I called the amazing hair and make-up duo that I met at a wedding a few months back. And I knew that no celebration was complete without a cake, and what better time to have sweets around than a break up… On divorce and the "you just didn't try hard enough" myth I didn't know what to expect from friends and family, and strangers when I announced my divorce. I had kept many of my relationship "issues" away from family -- not… Read More I had a post-divorce "freedom session" on my would-be wedding anniversary How does a wedding planner/photographer celebrate her divorce? She drinks her way through Champagne, France, and has a Freedom Session photo shoot. Read More In the end the Dream Team of boss ladies pulled out all the stops, and rocked an amazing day to celebrate Jessi and the start of her most fabulous adventure; the new love affair she would have with herself. 7 things I have learned about relationships (since my divorce) It has been interesting, over the last two years or so, to be an outsider in the relationship world. The dust has settled on my divorce, I have had time… Read More The Dream Team: Photography/Coordination: CYork Photography Baked Amazingness: Commonwealth Cake Company Hair: Cecily Morgan Make Up: Nicole Laughlin Make Up Arist Venues: Quirk Hotel and VMFA in Richmond, VA File this under Why Didn't I Think of That? Who else now wants to put "self love photoshoot" on their divorce to-do list? Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Guest post written by Carley Fetty Carley is a photographer and clearly a kick-ass friend. http://cyorkphotography.com PREVIOUS The cold never bunny'd me anyway: How to DIY this Elsa bunny for Easter NEXT I finally beat addiction to nicotine and alcohol (+6 useful resources if you wanna do the same) Show/Hide comments [ 4 ] Thats awesome. Got of have lot of courage to do what you did… 3 agree Reply I love this! What a great way to celebrate yourself! 4 agree Reply I seriously wish I had thought of this. The divorce process is such an intense period in your life. And teh end should be "celebrated" in some fashion. Why not by looking like a hot little boss WITH CAKE!? 10 agree Reply Not really the same, but I did a casual photo session with my siblings the day after I broke up with the boy I dated before I met my husband. It's been almost a decade ago, and I still can't fully describe just how LIBERATED I felt during that time. (A little back story: That boy I broke up with was sexually/emotionally abusive.) So the smile that's in those pictures was as genuine of a smile as you can get while having your pictures taken. If you aren't for some reason comfortable with getting pictures taken of just yourself, have them done along with some family and/or friends. That way, you are surrounding yourself with the people who truly care for and support you no matter what. 3 agree Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Subscribe me to your mailing list No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy.