I’m engaged to marry the love of my life next year. We’ve been together for four years, and I’ve been a step-mother to his eleven-year-old for three-and-a-half of those four years. I really love this kid — I often feel like he could be my own child, and we have a special “just us” language we regularly use.
My step-son has repeatedly told us that he doesn’t want us to have a child of our own. He’s a very sensitive kid, and is really worried that we won’t love him as much as we do now if we have another. His dad and I do plan to have a child, and since we’re older it’ll probably be sooner than later.
My question here is two-fold: 1) when it comes time, how can we tell my step-son that we’re having a baby without worrying him, and 2) how will the thirteen-year (at the very least) age gap between the two children impact the kids and us? — Bageria