And four months into this whole mamahood thing, I finally starting to feel like ME again, and that includes superficial things.
But my prep work is only about 10 minutes in the morning. What about the ladies with the looks that take some serious time? I asked some Offbeat Families readers and got some great answers…
- “On my worst days, I’ll just do my lips and eyebrows, throw on sunglasses, and still somehow manage to look like I tried.” -Amelia Grace
- “It’s second nature for me to get all ‘girled up’ … I found that I felt a lot better when I was myself: painted eyebrows, liquid liner, platform shoes and all…” -Reni Valentine
- “I manage to put my goth look together for Special occassions, date night, parties, pictures, etc. But yeah, my mommy day to day consists of hair in a bun, black skirt, and black velvet zip up hoodie over a nursing tank.” -Hunny
- “Shaved off the hair. So much better.” -Zoe Roy
- “I am a Goth and always dress that way even if I am taking my son to school …. If you love the way you look, you will find the time to dress or look that way. I must admit when I first had my kids I was wondering how I would ever find the time to look the way I wanted to, but now its just routine” -Larissa Corby
- “I didn’t feel like me when I first had my daughter, I had to rediscover my pre-baby dress sense and hair dying tendencies to get ‘me’ back! …Although I now think I might tone down the make up since toddler munchkin drew on her face with felt-tips copying me :/” -Jedgee Joy
One Offbeat Families reader, Heather Miller, sent me some great perspectives on how she keeps up her pin-up retro look:
When I saw your post on Facebook, I laughed a little to myself because having a high maintenance fashion aesthetic when you’re a mom is very challenging indeed. My son is nearly 11 years old now and I still find it hard to keep up the glamorous part of my “pin-up retro aesthetic” on a daily basis. With running him to and from school, activities, maintaining the household AND running my own jewelry business, I definitely cannot spend hours in front of the mirror rolling my hair and carefully applying eyelashes like the old days! Unless, of course we are heading out to paint the town at a local Rockabilly show.
I find that having a routine of when I set my hair and preparing outfits for the week (with substitutions for activities that may change) really helps. Of course, when your kids are very small, a good hair wrap and some red lipstick always does the trick in a pinch.
Also, you may want to avoid wearing your vintage best (or favorite goth clothes, etc.) when home with babies and toddlers. Stick to classic t-shirts and jeans with ballet flats. Those are less likely to be permanently damaged from spills and can be found in every shape, color and pattern to express your individual style.
I also make a point to wear at least one piece of statement jewelry every day! Even with jeans, a big retro flower ring or a mod cuff bracelet always makes you look more pulled together!
Thanks to everyone who took the time to answer! And now I want to hear from more of you — how do you find the time to feel like YOURSELF, no matter how high or low maintenance that may be?