Last week The Guardian published an article I wrote about recovering from my divorce called Seven things I wish I’d known before my divorce: an optimistic guide to the future. (For those of you who missed it, here’s my Offbeat Bride post from a few months ago where I was like “Oh yeah, I’m divorced now.) Anyway! Here’s the start of the article:
Last November, my husband sat me down on the living room floor and told me he didn’t see a future for us. The abrupt end of my 18-year relationship left me feeling blindsided and disoriented, and my brain parsed the event as a trauma. I was in a surreal fight-or-flight mode for months, unable to sleep or eat normally, disoriented to the degree that I would walk into walls as I tried to cook for my son, or fall down the stairs for no reason.
On top of this personal shock, I also had to face my readers. In my work as a publisher of an online wedding magazine, I spent the winter of my divorce figuring out co-parenting while also co-producing wedding expos nationwide. I juggled meetings with child therapists and wedding vendors. It was rough.
But as I round out the first year since my divorce, things have calmed down. I look back and wish I could wrap my arms around that poor blindsided woman a year ago and whisper these truths into her ear…
You can read the full piece over here. As always, the comments over there may make you angry (I view them as market research for the book I’m working on, but still), so if you’ve got thoughts, I’d suggest posting ’em here.