1.2k 15 Comments October 10, 2018 Individuation: stumbling toward emotional self-reliance Maybe the most obvious way to talk about individuation is to say that, in the context of my marriage, if there was a bad feeling, I would look to my spouse to help me with it. Over the years, this mean that basically I held him at least partially responsible for my sense of well-being. Then, suddenly, my sense of well-being was very much my responsibility alone… and ultimately, it always was. Read More June 20, 2018 A reminder in difficult times: Love is an extraordinary and beautiful thing Each person expresses and feels love in many ways. We love people in our lives with different kinds of love — the love for a child, a parent, friends, and lovers. Each love is defined and felt in personal ways depending on who receives it. I have loved many people in many ways in my lifetime. Loving someone is a selfless endeavor. To love someone is to bare your soul. To trust that person with the deepest parts of you. Love is gentle and selfless and kind. Here's a reminder about love in these difficult times… Read More 1.7k 14 Comments February 6, 2018 The year I started dating god with a lowercase g I think I'm in a polyamorous relationship with god. This sounds insane in maybe 10 different ways, especially for ME to say, since for most of my life, my spirituality boiled down to don't know, don't care! … but it's probably the most accurate description of happened for me this past year. Of course I'm talking about "god" lower case non-denominational, so maybe it's a little less surprising than if the story here was "Offbeat Bride lady raised by hippies goes evangelical," but still. Read More 1.0k January 31, 2018 Diary of a divorcee: from grief to reflection to liberation I'm also a hopeless romantic and always fantasized that my relationships would be like Ethan Embry and Jennifer Love Hewitt's in Can't Hardly Wait. Here I am at 31, a single divorcee — a feeling I truly haven't experienced since before I was 19. And you know what? It's liberating… Read More 1.1k December 8, 2017 Second marriage is not a dirty word: finding new love and marriage after divorce Divorce is an ugly and catastrophic personal experience. You have to find a way to let go of the past and move forward, learning from what you have been through. The next relationship may be scary, the possibility of finding a happily ever after could be dismal. But finding happiness is worth the risk of letting someone in. I withstood divorce and came out on the other side, so I thought I would give you a few reasons why you shouldn't give up on love or marriage after divorce… Read More 123…7
June 20, 2018 A reminder in difficult times: Love is an extraordinary and beautiful thing Each person expresses and feels love in many ways. We love people in our lives with different kinds of love — the love for a child, a parent, friends, and lovers. Each love is defined and felt in personal ways depending on who receives it. I have loved many people in many ways in my lifetime. Loving someone is a selfless endeavor. To love someone is to bare your soul. To trust that person with the deepest parts of you. Love is gentle and selfless and kind. Here's a reminder about love in these difficult times… Read More 1.7k 14 Comments February 6, 2018 The year I started dating god with a lowercase g I think I'm in a polyamorous relationship with god. This sounds insane in maybe 10 different ways, especially for ME to say, since for most of my life, my spirituality boiled down to don't know, don't care! … but it's probably the most accurate description of happened for me this past year. Of course I'm talking about "god" lower case non-denominational, so maybe it's a little less surprising than if the story here was "Offbeat Bride lady raised by hippies goes evangelical," but still. Read More 1.0k January 31, 2018 Diary of a divorcee: from grief to reflection to liberation I'm also a hopeless romantic and always fantasized that my relationships would be like Ethan Embry and Jennifer Love Hewitt's in Can't Hardly Wait. Here I am at 31, a single divorcee — a feeling I truly haven't experienced since before I was 19. And you know what? It's liberating… Read More 1.1k December 8, 2017 Second marriage is not a dirty word: finding new love and marriage after divorce Divorce is an ugly and catastrophic personal experience. You have to find a way to let go of the past and move forward, learning from what you have been through. The next relationship may be scary, the possibility of finding a happily ever after could be dismal. But finding happiness is worth the risk of letting someone in. I withstood divorce and came out on the other side, so I thought I would give you a few reasons why you shouldn't give up on love or marriage after divorce… Read More 123…7
1.7k 14 Comments February 6, 2018 The year I started dating god with a lowercase g I think I'm in a polyamorous relationship with god. This sounds insane in maybe 10 different ways, especially for ME to say, since for most of my life, my spirituality boiled down to don't know, don't care! … but it's probably the most accurate description of happened for me this past year. Of course I'm talking about "god" lower case non-denominational, so maybe it's a little less surprising than if the story here was "Offbeat Bride lady raised by hippies goes evangelical," but still. Read More 1.0k January 31, 2018 Diary of a divorcee: from grief to reflection to liberation I'm also a hopeless romantic and always fantasized that my relationships would be like Ethan Embry and Jennifer Love Hewitt's in Can't Hardly Wait. Here I am at 31, a single divorcee — a feeling I truly haven't experienced since before I was 19. And you know what? It's liberating… Read More 1.1k December 8, 2017 Second marriage is not a dirty word: finding new love and marriage after divorce Divorce is an ugly and catastrophic personal experience. You have to find a way to let go of the past and move forward, learning from what you have been through. The next relationship may be scary, the possibility of finding a happily ever after could be dismal. But finding happiness is worth the risk of letting someone in. I withstood divorce and came out on the other side, so I thought I would give you a few reasons why you shouldn't give up on love or marriage after divorce… Read More 123…7
1.0k January 31, 2018 Diary of a divorcee: from grief to reflection to liberation I'm also a hopeless romantic and always fantasized that my relationships would be like Ethan Embry and Jennifer Love Hewitt's in Can't Hardly Wait. Here I am at 31, a single divorcee — a feeling I truly haven't experienced since before I was 19. And you know what? It's liberating… Read More 1.1k December 8, 2017 Second marriage is not a dirty word: finding new love and marriage after divorce Divorce is an ugly and catastrophic personal experience. You have to find a way to let go of the past and move forward, learning from what you have been through. The next relationship may be scary, the possibility of finding a happily ever after could be dismal. But finding happiness is worth the risk of letting someone in. I withstood divorce and came out on the other side, so I thought I would give you a few reasons why you shouldn't give up on love or marriage after divorce… Read More 123…7
1.1k December 8, 2017 Second marriage is not a dirty word: finding new love and marriage after divorce Divorce is an ugly and catastrophic personal experience. You have to find a way to let go of the past and move forward, learning from what you have been through. The next relationship may be scary, the possibility of finding a happily ever after could be dismal. But finding happiness is worth the risk of letting someone in. I withstood divorce and came out on the other side, so I thought I would give you a few reasons why you shouldn't give up on love or marriage after divorce… Read More 123…7