4 steps to having a successful and body-positive boudoir shoot
A lot of people think that they can’t do boudoir photography; that they’re too big, too old, too awkward, not pretty enough, etc. That’s just not the case. Absolutely anyone on the planet can do boudoir. No matter what stage you are on your body-positive journey, doing a boudoir shoot can help boost your confidence! Here are my steps to having a successful and awesome boudoir shoot…
Being fat isn’t a sex-life death sentence: how to be body positive in the bedroom
Confession: I was a covers-pulled-up-to-my-chin, lights-off, minimize-jiggling-however-possible lover. I hated my nude body. I used to think somehow that if my partner couldn’t see the parts of me that I didn’t like, (s)he’d magically not know about them. Then, I met a partner who finally called me out on it. That’s the moment I had my great epiphany: Being fat isn’t automatically a sex-life death sentence; it’s SO possible to have mind-blowing sex and be overweight
How The Addams Family does BDSM right
While it was unfortunately many people’s introduction to the topic, bloggers from all corners of the internet have derided the relationship pictured in Fifty Shades for what it really is: abuse masquerading as kink. But twenty-four years ago, a family comedy centered on a couple who liked to torture each other for pleasure gave audiences a much healthier glimpse at BDSM.
How to share BDSM with a vanilla partner
I wanted my man to be assertive and to take charge. I wanted to be swept off my feet by our romantic encounters. Malik, however, is a sub. He wanted me to take charge. He wanted me to be commanding, to dominate him. I had no experience with that whatsoever. He wanted to be paddled, blindfolded, gagged. And he wanted to do all of this with me. If your partner wants you to try something new, be it anal play, bondage, role play, ice cubes, or anything else, here are a few tips I learned from exploring the world of BDSM as a vanilla partner.
Saying “bye” to labels: I’m not sure of my sexuality anymore, and that’s okay
There was a time when having a label to my sexuality was very important to me because it helped me name what I was. I’ll tell you now: I still don’t have a nicely labeled answer for what I am. And I don’t care.
BDSM in mainstream media: Why I taught my kids about safe words
Kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina Aguilera’s Not Myself Tonight, for instance. Our kids are seeing it, hearing and some of them are even reading the book. I anticipate that the majority of learning on the topic will not be from me but they’ll likely see videos and ads, or hear things from peers that could use some context, and I prefer to be the person who provides that context.
How Je Joue can help you find your G-spot
Right now, Je Joue is currently running a promotion on their g-spot toy, the G-Kii — it’s marked down to $99 for their summer sale. In honor of that sale, here are 5 things Je Joue wants you to know about finding your g-spot with the G-Kii…
Married and celibate: Adjusting my relationship expectations in a sexless marriage
We’re barely in our thirties, but my husband and I are currently in a “sexless marriage” (defined as a couple who have sex “10 times a year or less”). I am writing this because I want other partners in similar situations to know that they aren’t alone.