I always planned on being childfree, but lately my partner and I have been strongly considering trying for a baby in the next few years. The thing is, I despise hospitals and the standard American healthcare system (I’m not opposed to modern healthcare in general, but I do believe there’s a lot of judgement, fear-mongering, and over-medicating happening for financial gain more than for true preventative necessity).
My friends all have doctor/hospital horror stories about their own pregnancies, however they think I’m crazy when I talk about possible home birth, or skipping certain tests. Does anyone have any thoughts on finding a good medical support who understands my needs and won’t push for unnecessary tests or pass unsolicited advice on my lifestyle?
Is it even possible to find a doctor, midwife, or doulas who will work with me on an individual level, and not just advise the same old rhetoric given to all pregnant women? Or do I need to just suck it up and accept all of that as part of the pregnancy/birthing process? -Dev
Is it possible to have a low-key pregnancy? Or are you doomed to go through all the scary horror stories no matter what?