Remember the lesbian triad wedding? They’re pregnant!

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GASP!

Those of you who read Offbeat Bride may remember Kitten, Brynn, and Doll’s rainbow garden of poly love three-bride wedding that we featured last fall. Well, it turns out that the triad are expecting a baby!

Photo courtesy of Daily Mail
Photo courtesy of Daily Mail

The Daily Mail ran a big feature on the triad today. Here’s an excerpt, and a video interview!

The threesome insist their relationship is like that of any normal couple: having breakfast with one another, watching TV after work and sharing a bed together.

Doll says: ‘The only difference is that communication is a lot more difficult for us than others. There are three people so our relationship takes detailed scheduling – everything we do goes on the calendar!

‘Whilst communication is tricky, household chores are a lot easier with three people! You can slack off on your errands and another person can pick them up.’

Brynn adds: ‘Each of us has our own allocated chores and roles – I like to think of us a romantic committee. In our relationship, I’m the traditional breadwinner. I work a forty hour week and make the majority of the family’s income.

‘Doll does the cooking and Kitten does the cleaning. Sometimes, Kitten also helps me with my hair and make-up before I go to work.’

The full article includes some back-story on how the threesome met, and the legal aspects of their marriage. Common sense alert: whatever you do, DON’T READ THE COMMENTS OVER THERE. Just don’t. (There’s a reason we’re so committed to our no-drama commenting policy.)

Congrats to Kitten, Brynn, and Doll!

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Comments on Remember the lesbian triad wedding? They’re pregnant!

  5. This is lovely! Congrats to them! Although the comments of that article made me very very sad. I hope these wonderful living women read the comments here and find support. <3

  7. Wonderful news!!! Very happy for them. That baby is going to have some very strong women to look up to!

    As for the negative comments…I’m all for spreading love and not hate, but ignorance and cruelty and diseases for which there isn’t a cure. But for every person who says something negative comment, there’s another person saying something positive and kind. We love you guys!

  8. YES! I loved reading about this couple. I totally adore the idea of polyfaithful relationships. I will be honest, I don’t get polyamory because I FULLY believe in monogamy (old-school that way lol!), but I do completely get the idea of a polyfaithful relationship. It makes a lot of sense to me.

    • I mean this in absolutely the most respectful way possible… but can you clarify what you mean when you say you don’t “get polyamory” because you “FULLY believe in monogamy”?

      As a polyamorous woman (reading this with my husband), we would love to answer any questions you have to help you “get it,” whatever that means to you. It can be hard to read comments like this, because it feels like there’s a lot of implied judgement there… but that could definitely be just me being oversensitive. Either way, I always love to hear different people’s perspectives, and would love to hear more about what you mean.

      Super happy for this triad and their exciting news – congratulations to you all!

      • Not to butt in, necessarily, but I think what Sara meant by saying she doesn’t “get” polyamory is that maybe she just doesn’t understand how someone could love more than one person romantically at the same time. That seems to be the major consensus of monogamists who “don’t get it” (in a respectful way as opposed to the rude and judge-y way) from what I’ve gathered. I’m sure it wasn’t meant in a derogatory way.

        • This is how I interpreted it too. I don’t understand it because I have never done it, but I can appreciate that it can make other people happy.

        • Fair enough – maybe that is how she intended it! I was confused because she said she completely gets polyfaithful relationships, but not polyamory in general… seems a strange distinction to me.

          But just to clarify, I definitely wasn’t trying to be antagonistic. I’m just always interested in hearing from people with different viewpoints than mine, and OffbeatHome is one of the few comments sections where you can ask “the other side” questions and not have it devolve into crazypants territory!

          Thanks for jumping in, Danielle 🙂

      • I haven’t been back to this post for awhile, so I am sorry I didn’t respond yet! I definitely didn’t mean any offense whatsoever. What I meant is that I can’t imagine polyamory (in the form of consenting, non-permanent, open relationships) working for my personality. I DO see a polyfaithful relationship for me. If my husband and I found someone we were both physically and emotionally attracted to, and they were willing to join our marriage permanently, then I can definitely see that happening. Then again, I am one of those people who don’t even like having a lot of friends, just a couple close ones. Too many relationships would stress me out!

        That said, I have nothing against polyamory and I totally see why people do it! Just not something that I can ever imagine working for me personally. I would say it is like how many of my friends are vegetarian. I love vegetarianism, I think it is awesome, but I don’t think I will ever take the step to BE a vegetarian.

        I hope that explained it… I read it over and I am not sure if I was clear even this time … but basically to sum it up, no issues with polyamory 🙂

          • I guess it is different for me… my husband and I got engaged almost immediately after meeting. We would have been married soon after if life stuff hadn’t gotten in the way. So the one time I “dated” it lasted a couple of weeks and then we were committed for life.

  13. When I read “they’re pregnant” I thought all three of them were. I’m not sure whether I should feel relieved or disappointed that they aren’t lol

    also, only married lesbian triad? Surely there’s others who just haven’t taken their relationship to the internet.

  14. I loved this wedding! I don’t even know how I ended up seeing it because I don’t follow OBB anymore (maybe it was linked from one of the other sites?) but I remember loving it. I can’t help but be curious about the dynamics of “unconventional” relationships like theirs. So it was neat to read a little more about their lives. I wish the video was longer, although I’m annoyed at the question “why was it important to have a marriage ceremony?” No one would ever ask a heterosexual couple that question.

    Anyway, congrats to the triad on the pregnancy! I do hope we get another update on them.

  17. (full disclosure: I’ve known Doll for several years)

    Congratulations, y’all! This baby is so blessed that s/z/he will be born into such a loving home!

    Props, as well, to your bravery in being so public with your relationship. You have epic chutzpah.

  20. Congratulations to the new mums-to-be! And to American and other non-British readers, pleeeeease do not judge all Brits by the Daily Mail and its hater commenters! Makes me feel ashamed of some of my stupider countrymen.

  23. Because I like knowing what I’m up against, I not only read the comments on Daily Mail, but also clicked on “worst rated” to read those ones. I love how the comments that would have the most “THIS!”s on OBB/OBH&F are the ones that have the most downvotes everywhere else.

    Although I don’t often comment here, I always read the articles and often most of the comments, too, and I just want to say how thankful I am to be involved (even in a small way!) in such an absolutely wonderful online community. You’re all so lovely! <3

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