My husband and I have always been happy to blur the gender lines, but he (current preferred pronoun!) recently told me that he identifies as transgender and wants to transition to presenting as female. (I’m a cisgendered lady-parts type.) I’m definitely not leaving — gender’s not a dealbreaker for me, and this sure is going to be interesting! — but this does present a bit of a logistical problem.
We desperately want kids in a few years. Even if he doesn’t get any surgery, hormones will probably make natural conception impossible, so we’re looking into sperm banks before he starts anything. We’ve been looking for support online, but most couples with children where one partner is trans had them *before* transition.
Has anyone had children with their partner after transition? — Lea
Another queer person experiencing fertility issues here! *waves*
You might also be interested in this report about the experiences of trans folks and parenting — it includes experiences of trans parents who transitioned both before and after.
They also made a short film which will be made into a feature length as well:
I know of one couple (cis female and trans female) who had a biological child together. The trans woman banked sperm at some point to use.
My partner is a trans guy, and we’re trying to have kids together. My eggs, donor sperm, but it’s been a bit of a strugle. Five IUIs, one fresh IVF transfer, one frozen IVF transfer — and no resulting pregnancies yet. I’m almost 35, so no spring chicken but still young enough. So I guess all that to say, make sure you bank enough. You never really know how long it will take to conceive.
Anyhow, sorry this is all over the place. But it’s rare to meet other partners of trans folks who are talking about having kids. And I’d love to hear more experiences…