What are some of the ways you go about getting your relationship ready for a baby? Therapy? Vacations? Family meetings?
Here are some of the best things we did, when I was pregnant, to get our relationship prepared…
1. Talk about boundaries
Talk about your ideas on how frequent is “too frequent” with over-eager family visitors when the new baby arrives? I found that announcing my pregnancy made my calendar suddenly fill up, because everyone was so excited to see me and us.
Get into more of the details about what happens when people will visit a bit too. Things like… Are you okay with your mom staying for a month? Are you comfortable with your mom, but not his mom, seeing you breastfeeding?
2. Take some time just for you guys
Designate a weekend here and there for a sort of date weekend. And you don’t even need to travel or spend money to do it. Just go with no chores, no outside obligations, no baby nesting. Or go to the movies. Go for a walk or just sit at a pretty park bench if you’re not up for walking.
3. See if you can get your hands on your old baby pictures
You don’t need a ton, but it’ll be fun for both of you to look at each other’s baby pictures. Maybe some new stories about your childhoods will surface that you can learn from and then talk about what you’d do as parents in those instances.
4. If you both enjoy cooking
And if you have the energy, make some freezer meals! These were also useful when I was too exhausted from being pregnant to have the energy to make food.
5. If you’ve ever thought about doing couples counseling, do it now!
When those sleep-deprived days come it helps to feel like you’re a team and have each other’s backs even when your’s snapping at each other in the moment. And then you’ll have the skills to understand what’s happening, and apologize later.
What were your tips to getting your relationship ready for a baby?