My work is going to an open office plan that I'll probably hate. How should I cope?

My employer is seriously considering moving our staff from individual cubicles with five-foot high walls to an open office plan. I am a serious introvert, and this is unacceptable to me. I have panic attacks just thinking about it. If we end up in shared cubicles, though, what suggestions do people have (photos or links would be awesome!), that would create more privacy and comfort for me?

Running as metaphor: how suffering shapes your perception of life and how you can use it to grow

I listened to a podcast on my run the other day about purpose, perseverance, and the close connection that exists between passion and suffering. The magic that happens when you embrace suffering and seek the impossible. To be willing to suffer for the things you're passionate about. So that podcast led me to thinking about suffering in all its forms and whether it can be turned into a growing experience…

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Comparing my grieving process to a car crash

I'm not an expert on grief. I haven't read the self-help books. I rarely take heed of anyone's advice on how to grieve. Joan Didion famously wrote a meditation on grief that is equal parts beautiful and sad. She tells us that grief has no end, and that it's nothing like we expect it to be. She describes the "comes in waves" phenomenon, which nobody can quite nail down in words but everyone knows exactly what it means when it's said.

I can't compare my grief to ocean waves, however. For me, it's more like a car crash that you see coming but are helpless to stop — one that leaves you damaged and scarred, inside and out.

The Pumpkin Spice Latte is back today: love it or hate it?

In its earliest premiere ever, Starbucks is releasing the 2018 Pumpkin Spice Latte today, August 28, unofficially heralding the coming of fall. As someone who's motto is usually, "let people enjoy things," I don't get mad about it. It's a tasty drink and gets people excited for a popular season. How bad could it be? But you know how it is, especially on the internet…

Establishing boundaries with the news without numbing out

What on earth am I searching for, I wonder, as I open up Facebook, Instagram, the NY Times app, my work email, my personal email, my other work email, my text messages, Facebook Messenger (I just navigated away from this post to check it again) for the nth time, on loop, in a spiral? What?

Again and again and again I interface with this lesson. I get sucked dry online. Decimated. Emotionally drained and psychologically whipped. I become ineffective and pulled around by bait and hate and wait — why?