While discussing family gift-giving for the holidays, my husband and I discussed our changing lives and the changing lives of our families. Things like: Now that our brothers are over 21, do we still get them presents? And how do we tell them we don’t want them to use their limited funds to get us anything? And can we not get them presents while still buying my younger siblings presents? And what about when our siblings have kids too? We can’t afford to buy 10 kids quality presents as well as all of our other people! Plus, I don’t want our kid coming home with a truckload of gifts.
We discussed how we dreaded buying things for our parents: they, like us now, are financially comfortable enough to buy the things they want or need and anything we buy or make them ends up being clutter. We contemplated asking them exactly what they wanted and buying/making that, but buying a gift we were told to buy feels silly and more like a strange business transaction than a thoughtful gift. We also seriously contemplated gifting them “experiences,” but all the options we thought of were outside of our budget.
So my question is this: How have other Homies dealt with gift giving as their families and finances have changed? Have any of you been brave enough to get rid of gift giving completely and how the heck did you broach the subject with your families? -Angelle
Ah, the joys of being an adult during the holidays. My favorite solution to this: Yankee Swap or white elephant gift exchange. Of course it only works if everyone is together for the holidays. Everyone only needs to buy one gift, but everyone leaves with something new/fun/stupid/useful/silly, and I’ve always had fun doing this.
But that’s just me, what about you guys? How have you adulted gift-giving as your family has grown?