Offbeat Home, I have a question for you. I’m nearing 40, and while I think aging is pretty cool, and like how I look these days (I’m in better shape than I was in my 20s!)… I don’t like the furrows between my eyebrows. It’s less that they make me look old… and more that they make me look mad!
I got a Groupon for Botox and decided I wanted to try it. Afterwards, I told my husband and he got really upset! He told me he liked my face the way it was (aww…) and that he really didn’t want me “doing that” to my body.
My response was, “Ok, but it’s my body.”
I want to respect my husband’s request, but at the same time I feel like this is my choice to make. I did a ton of body modifications in my 20s (tattoos, facial and genital piercings) and in some ways this is the same thing… Except of course it’s not because it’s compensating for aging, and my husband doesn’t want me to do it.
I know most Offbeat Homies are younger than me, but can we talk about this?
Such a meaty question, finding us somewhere at the intersection of aging, body modification, feminism, and spousal relations. For some of us, recreational body modification might feel fun, while “corrective” body modification might feel gross. We talked about feminism and bikini waxes a while back, but this gets even more complex because it’s tied to aging, and the value our society places on youthfulness in women. And body ownership! If you want to modify your body’s appearance, how much say does your partner have? What about when there are medical risks?
We have no answers, but we LOVE the question. Homies, want to have your say?