I live on the East Coast. My partner lives on the West Coast. So far, the distance has been manageable. Here is the other catch: He was initially the one considering moving, but has incredible career prospects where he is living. One that I have a hard time asking him to give up. One that will bring in enough income that I wouldn’t have to work.
This last point is important because the West Coast doesn’t offer strong career opportunities in my chosen field. Ready for the next catch? I’m still so early on in my career, that if I make the move and stop working now, it’s likely I’ll never be able to build a career in this industry.
The thing is, I think I’m okay with becoming a homemaker! I wish I knew myself a bit better when I made the decision to spend so much time and money on college for a career that, to be honest, I would love to just commit myself to as a volunteer! Knowing myself better now, I think I would be very happy being a homemaker, eventually a stay-at-home mom, and applying my skills as a community leader rather than for a paycheck.
How can I reconcile myself and move past the fears of disappointing those who supported me emotionally and financially through school… fears of not gaining the professional experience I need, should I ever need to re-enter the workforce… and the fear of being financially dependent on someone?
We’ve definitely talked about this from the angle of not liking being a housewife, and the pros and cons of being a stay-at-home dad/homemaker. But we haven’t discussed wanting to be a homemaker, but feeling bad about it at the same time!
For those of you who have made similar decisions, what did you decide? Did it work out the way you hoped/planned? What hardships and kinks did you encounter along the way?