Raise your hand if you’ve ever indulged in being judgey over other people’s gift registries. It’s kind of like the equivalent of snooping inside someone’s bathroom medicine cabinet, right? Except after snooping you actually have to choose something to buy. That must be why conversations about gift etiquette can get so hairy. It seems everyone has their own rules and preferences.
Our sponsor, Thankful Registry, is an open-platform service that believes gift giving is about the people you love, not just the stuff you want. Here, they’re sharing five tips on how to create a wedding or baby registry that’s useful for you and should also be well-received by family and friends. Trust us, you’ll want to share this one around!
Also, if you have any helpful tips of your own, we’d love to hear in the comments.
1. Ditch the registry checklist
The registry checklist is a helpful place to start if you’re completely lost, but there’s no way anyone needs to add every item on that checklist. Sure, use it as inspiration, then you can toss it out. If you don’t, you’re in danger of having a storage cupboard of things you won’t use.
Instead, spend time thinking about what you already have, what you’d like to receive, and also what you like to give to others as gifts. (The third part stops you from adding things like garbage bags and laundry detergent.) If you really sit down and consider the items you add, you’ll receive gifts that are much more personal and special to you.
2. Make it super-personal
You know those gift registries at department stores and big-box retailers? They should be banished already because your friends and family deserve better than scrolling down a shopping list. Where’s the joy and love in doing that?
Instead, create something your family and friends will have a good time browsing. Maybe upload a photo from a vacation or engagement shoot, and write a cute welcome message so it’s the first thing they see (instead of that big store logo). And why register for the “ZWILLING ® J.A. Henckels VistaClad Stainless Steel 5-Piece Cookware Set” when you could simply rename it the “The 5-Piece cookware set that’s going to rule our kitchen” or something much more creative?
3. Keep the gift count under control
Did you ever hear the rule that you should have two or three gifts on your registry for every guest invited to your wedding? Well, department stores made that one up and it’s the fastest way to overwhelm people, even if you don’t mean to.
What you should do is make sure there are items at different price points on your registry (starting as low as $25) and that you have all types of things for guests to choose from. For instance, traditional registry items for more traditional guests, and more fun things, like camping gear, for your close friends to get you as a group gift. The same goes for baby registries.
Another great tip is to add a couple of generic gift card options (e.g. Amazon.com or Home Depot) for guests who know their price point and don’t want to spend time choosing something specific.
4. Be upfront about what you’re asking for
The catch-22 is that even though cash is the most practical, some people get antsy about giving cash as a gift. In some countries and cultures, cash gifts are totally normal. But in other circles, it’s considered impersonal and rude. So if you’d prefer cash gifts, let your guests know that it’s because it’s a lot more practical for where you are in life.
5. Pay it forward by adding a charity
If you feel discomfort or guilt about being showered with gifts, add a charity or two to your registry. It’s a great way to raise awareness and donations for issues that are important to you!
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As always, big slobbery kisses to Thankful Registry for being an Offbeat Home & Life sponsor!