Like many of us my husband and I have pasts… and not everything is lily white. I went through a time where I was making some fairly high risk choices to sooth personal self-esteem issues, and my husband was married before to a person who for many reasons was a very bad choice. While we aren’t proud of these things in our past, we also aren’t ashamed of them — they are part of who we are, and helped define our characters. Our hope is that our children can learn from our mistakes without making them (they should make their own mistakes and stop copying ours!).
How and when do we tell them our mistakes — and how do we tell our kids we aren’t perfect while still clearly establishing rules about what behavior is OK? -H. Prynne