My son might be gay and we live in a conservative town: where can I find resources for him?

Since he could ask for it, my son has asked to dress up in girl's clothing — pink and frilly, pretty and shiny. It's the only kind of clothing he gets excited about besides snazzy boy's dress shirt. To him, all other clothing serves only to keep him from being totally naked. This is ok with me, aside from fighting my own society embedded fears that make my first instinct to keep it in the house only (which has been going well).

I'm an atheist but my step-kid is religious: how do I respect his beliefs while expressing mine?

I have a nine-year-old stepson. I've been in his life since he was two-years-old. We've always split time 50-50 between the houses. My partner and I are definitely offbeat. We're tattooed, politically radical and activist-y, feminist, intentionally unmarried, and atheists. Around the time my stepson was four, his biological mom "found Jesus" and joined an evangelical, fundamentalist church. Needless to say, this was a difficult transition. Now, our little dude is coming to our house and evangelizing to us, trying to convert us.