I have something to confess: every relationship I have ever been in has been a long-distance one at some point in time. Most recently I have been in a four-year-long relationship with a lovely man, who asked me out over the phone as he was going through security at the airport to leave the country for four months! After he returned I still had two years of college, eight hours away, to finish up. So, while I am by no means an expert, I can say that I have some experience with the long distance experience.
Now, let me just say, long-term, long-distance SUCKS but here are my tips so that you don’t get bored with the standard text/call/Skype routine…
Invest in an Xbox and a Netflix subscription
This was actually my boyfriend’s idea. I came home one night to find an Xbox headset gift wrapped on my doorstep. It turns out if you plug in said headset (the one with the little mic) you can listen and talk to each other while you binge-watch Orange is the New Black on Netflix together! You just have to set up an Xbox live party, and voilà, movie night where you can watch and talk to each other at the same time, without having to run up your cellphone bill!
Put your Skype to good use!
Ok here’s the thing, I get bored with Skype really easily, but it’s nice to see your lover’s face now and again so what’s a girl or guy to do?
All the fun of sexy Skype time with none of the awkward pauses trying to figure out who should initiate. Also if you are very self-conscious about phone sex or dirty talk, this is for you! We used a free game program online in a smaller window on the screen and it was a BLAST!
Battleship, or strip battleship
We bought the Battleship Game, and we each took one side home. This was one of our favorite games, since he could take it with him when he traveled to other countries.
Anyone who knows us knows we love us some Legos, but most people don’t know that we started building them together over Skype. Honestly, this one just gave us something to do with our hands while we talked, and it was always fun to pick out new sets when we saw each other, then build them later on.
For a good amount of time my boyfriend is working on government projects that he can’t talk about. So our conversations go: “How was your day?” “Good.” THE END. Enter our Kindles! We would decide on what books we wanted to read and then each read a chapter or more a week. This not only gave us bookworms something to read and do during the day, but when we did talk on the phone we had something in common to discuss. We would usually take turns choosing which books to read so that no one got bored.
This one is my favorite. We chose a list of things we both had to find or do, and then take pictures with our phones, and send them to each other. The person who got the least on the list, or finished last, had to pay for our next in-person date night! Neither one of us are big texters or phone people, so this gave us a great way to check in throughout the day and also make each other laugh.
Some of our favorites were: a picture of an authority figure in a wig, recreate your favorite movie scene using breakfast foods, and take a picture of you and the person with the most outrageous outfit at the bar.
Long distance isn’t ever easy, but sometimes you can make it fun! Talk with your partner about what you enjoy doing together when you are in person and then go from there!
What are your tips for not getting bored with long distance relationship communications?