When I was little, I thought I knew what my life was going to look like, right down to the details. I had this idealized fantasy world of me writing best-selling fantasy novels, while living in a big old Victorian house by a river. Yes, I know it’s possible to be a best-selling author and own an old Victorian house, I’m sure… but the odds of that actually happening? Slim to none.
But now… I’m at a point in my life where nothing feels certain. Which sucks, because I’m the type of person who needs security and assurance.
It is pretty rare to come across someone who knows exactly what they want to do for the rest of their life (realistically speaking,) and how they are going to make it out on their own. While I am not sure right now about career paths and long term relationship dreams, I’ve found figuring out what you want to get out of life can help you decide to plan out bigger future goals. Little goals are like baby steps or building blocks. They help you work upwards.
For example, I have three main goals. These goals are things I am aiming for in my future, something I want to work for, a decision I have made, or something that helps me think positively of the future.
- I would like to live in a small house.
- I would like to help foster dogs for a shelter.
- I have no desire to have any children.
These goals may seem small and unimportant at a glance. Who cares if I want to foster dogs? Shouldn’t I care more about something “serious?” Well, for me, fostering dogs as a goal is about something I can look forward to in the future, something I would like to do while living independently. Which gets me excited for my future, even if I’m not a hundred percent sure what the future may hold.
Like to make your own goals, but not sure where to start?
My biggest advice is to start small. Big goals can be daunting and you may never feel you will live up to the expectations of something so huge. So, keeping that in mind, try not to list one of your goals as “becoming a millionaire.” Instead, make a goal be where you would like to travel, for example: where you would like to take a summer road trip. Or maybe, make your goal something more specific: to move out of your family nest in the next couple of years.
I may not know exactly where I’m going yet, but I am working on it — on my own way and at my own pace.
How do you create goals when you don’t really know where you’re headed?