While discussing all things family related with my fiancée, we were debating whether or not we should raise the kids vegan (I’m vegan, she’s not) or according to my religious beliefs (she’s agnostic and doesn’t follow anything specifically). For us, as a queer couple, this opens some interesting dialogue because if we end up adopting and those kids are older, we don’t necessarily feel right imposing beliefs on someone who is of an age where they can make their own decisions.
But then it got me thinking: why impose any of my beliefs on any child, regardless of their age? Certainly many parents do this and it works out for them — if you follow a belief structure that you feel to be moral, you may want to pass this on to your kids.
So my question to parents is this: how do you decide what to pass on and what to let your kid figure out for themselves? As a parent, are you more likely to choose one approach over the other, or do you find a balance between the two? — Aurora