We’ve gotten numerous questions from readers about how to communicate with friends and family about baby gifts. Specifically, how to let them know you don’t want any, are ok with used stuff, don’t want any before the baby’s born, etc.
I did a post about Copy ‘n’ Paste conflict resolution on Offbeat Bride years ago, and figured I’d try my hand at copy ‘n’ paste “thanks but no thanks.” These are written to be appropriate for showers, emails, or common conversation.
- Thank you so much for thinking of us and the new baby! We’re working with pretty limited space, so we’re asking folks to contribute to the baby’s college fund rather than give gifts we don’t have room for in our house.
- In an attempt to reduce the overwhelming amount of baby supplies, we’re asking for hand-me-downs, second-hand, and home-made gifts only! Peek in the attic, dig in the basement: we can’t wait to see what retro baby and toddler stuff you come up with! Can’t find any? No problem: your presence is the best present.
- Please no gifts! If you simply can’t resist the temptation to buy cute baby stuff, we’ll be making a run to our local women shelter to donate all gifts that appear at the shower. They’re desperate for baby wipes, shampoo, diaper ointment, baby monitors, bottles, and toys — all things that we don’t need!
- Pregnant mama is HUNGRY! Please, no baby gifts — FOOD ONLY. 🙂
We also love this reader favorite:
My line was, “I’m just happy we don’t *need* anything, except more space in the house!” and when people repeatedly asked what we needed, I told them we could use help paying for a storage unit “so the kid can sleep somewhere other than the dresser drawer.”
But now we’d love to open it up to commenters: how do you lovingly tell family that no really: you don’t need more baby stuff?