Nested cards: Extreme(ly organized) letter writing for your loved ones #Do It Yourself#communicating#school#writing Updated Nov 14 2017 (Posted Oct 1 2014) Guest post by Pemcat The first year that each of my sisters were at university, I sent them a letter every single week, without using the post office. I got the idea from my mother. When I was small she didn't go away often, but when she did she would leave a trail of notes that Dad would help us follow every day. They weren't life changing, but it was regular contact with her. For example, Monday's note might have said something along the lines of "I love you. Tuesday's note is at the back of the mug cupboard. Be good for Dad. Mum xx." As my sister started preparing for university, I started wondering how this idea could translate to someone who was themselves going away, rather than being left behind. I obviously couldn't sneak into her room before she got there and hide notes. For one thing, over the course of a term she would be bound to find them. For another, it would be very creepy. I finally hit on the idea of nested envelopes. When she went away I gave her a big thick envelope that had her name and the date of the start of term on it. On opening it she would find a letter from me, a card from someone else, and a slightly smaller envelope with next Sunday's date on it. This pattern repeated itself until all the Sundays of term had passed and I would see her again. Making this work consisted of two challenges. The first was finding suitable cards, and the second was filling them with messages. Related Post How to communicate with your partner when you're bad at expressing yourself I'm bad at communication (like really, really bad). Even if I can bring up the courage to talk to someone I never know exactly what... Read more Finding the cards was harder than I expected. It turns out that a lot of cards come in standard sizes, so if you want ones that are going to fit inside other ones you have to look quite carefully. You also have to choose whether to go for square cards or rectangular ones, since switching really doesn't work. I found a larger range of sizes were available for rectangular cards. I restricted myself to vaguely appropriate cards (no birthday cards unless it was their actual birthday that week), but it would have been a lot easier if I hadn't followed that rule. Birthday cards seem to make up 75% of cards available. Occasionally I ended up buying an inappropriate card because the envelope was the right size, and then slipping a smaller card in. The longest series of nested cards I ever managed to find was thirteen. For the fifteen week term I made envelopes myself and wrote on cut up squares of coloured paper. Finding messages was comparatively easy, although time consuming. I took the approach of distributing the cards to family and friends, so each of them wrote one or two cards (I told them when the recipient would receive it). People were surprisingly keen to get involved, and very helpful. For filling my letters, I wrote down each of the dates, then looked to see if I could find inspiration from one of the following: The published dates for their term — it might be their fresher's week, or they could have a reading week. Maybe they will be packing up their things to come home, or preparing for exams. My diary — Perhaps I had a trip planned, or something else exciting coming up that I could talk about. The calendar — Perhaps there was something like Valentine's Day or St Patrick's Day approaching that I could share a memory from. As much as I enjoyed putting the package together, I think my sisters enjoyed receiving them more. After the first time they weren't a surprise, but I started getting gentle reminders about them as each of their turns came around. They were generally disciplined about opening them. Although one sister told me she did start opening hers on a Saturday and another said she occasionally opened one early if she was having a bad week and needed some extra love, by and large they kept to the timetable. It was a lot of work, but I think it was worth it. Years later my sisters still have some of the cards and letters they received. It's an idea that generalises to any length of time that a loved one is away — the dates can be spaced however you like with as many or as few envelopes as you please. It doesn't replace phone calls or emails or texts, or even letters written in the normal way, but it is a very nice addition to them. Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Pemcat I am a hyper organised maths loving geek married to a nerd of Hilbert spaces, percussion and tube trains. I come from a large, loud and close family. I do not cook, but I enjoy eating my husband's culinary creations. He does not do laundry, but he enjoys wearing clean clothes. PREVIOUS Stylish rolling bags to lug around your daily necessities NEXT How to play Quidditch Beer Pong Show/Hide comments [ 15 ] That's brilliant! Thanks for sharing. Reply Thanks 🙂 Reply I did something a little similarly inspired! I was preparing to go to Pakistan for 15 weeks, leaving my husband behind in the US. Before hand I bought 15 cards/post cards, and wrote messages in all of them and preaddressed and stamped them. In a number of the cards I put $5ish gift cards to cafes and pubs we like. Just before I left, I numbered them 1-15 and left them with a good friend in town, who has been dropping them in the mail, one a week. So far he loves it 🙂 Reply Who wouldn't love it? It's like you're taking him out on dates even though you're not there with him physically! Reply Yup, I am putting this away for the next deployment the man heads out on! This is an AWESOME idea, thank you so much for sharing! Reply This is brilliant! My son is turning two and I'm going to create a set so his dad and I can complete one a year on his birthday, then give them to him when he's…what? 16? 18? 21? Now to decide which way the cards go–age two as the highest one and work your way down to age 18 (or whatever) or start small and go up, so he's working backwards through his childhood. Thank you so much! Reply Wow, you have so much more patience than I have! My maximum length of time for keeping a nice surprise a secret is about six months, tops. Less if it's a really good one. I've been in danger of doing a number of 'well, this was going to be your Christmas present, but it's Friday so let's celebrate!' when the suspense gets too much for me. Your son is a lucky boy. Reply This is such a great idea! I'm expecting my first at the moment and I was thinking of starting a 100 year diary for them that they could carry on when they got old enough, but I also love this idea. I may steal it. 🙂 Reply My husband is away for two months this winter. I might need to try this and sneak it into his bag as he's leaving as a surprise. Reply What a beautiful idea! My aunt did something along those lines when I moved abroad after college. There was a big envelope with a year's worth of holiday cards inside – birthday, Christmas, Easter, Halloween, St. Patrick's Day. It was such a lovely gesture, and I really looked forward to opening each one. Reply This is such a sweet idea!!! I am definitely bookmarking this idea for later use! Adorable 😀 Reply I used to lead backpacking trips for a summer camp. Every time a group was going to leave for an extended trip, other counselors would create a package of "trip notes" for the counselors leading the trip. They would number each envelope and you would open one every night after camp had been set up and the kids had crashed out in their own tents. When you are out in the wilderness for days on end with a half dozen young teens as your only company, the notes were a welcome treat at the end of each day. Our stuff was an incredibly creative bunch and the notes were full of great drawings, poems, inside jokes and even origami. The connection they provided was great. Reply My mum used to write me a letter for every day I'd be away at summer camp (1-2 weeks at a time) from when I was 6 until my last summer as a camper at 17. I still have most of them! Reply This is awesome. Love the spacing it out part! My husband has occasionally surprised me with leaving notes detailing the adventures of some fictional character (usually a little stuffy he's bought me) around the house which I have to follow. I plan to return the favour one of these weekends when he is not expecting it. Even if the notes don't space out, it's a blast. I actually missed a note once and found it later and it totally cheered me up. Reply can i please be an adopted sister? *sigh* Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy.