I’ve been dating this dude for a while, and it’s been going great. Recently he asked if I wanted to meet his mother. I said yes — and I’m excited! But I’m also nervous.
This is my first real relationship. The last time I met a date’s mother for the first time, it was only because neither of us were old enough to drive yet. 10+ years later and the game has changed. So even though I’m in my late 20s, I’ve never really done the whole “meet the parents” thing before.
Most of the advice I can find online is pretty sexist:
* dress conservatively
* hide your body
* offer to help in the kitchen to show that you can run a house!
I’m talking to my dude about it as well, so I’ll have his input as well. But I ask you, Homies, is there anything I should know that isn’t super gender stereotyped? -Didn’t Get the Dating Manual
After 10 years of being in a relationship, I recently had to have the “meet your new partner’s parents” moment recently. So I guess I can offer up a little bit of advice…
You’ve already done the most crucial step — ask your partner for their advice. No one knows your partner’s parents better than their own child! I’ve had boyfriends tell me, “You’re fine. You can do anything you normally do, except cuss.” I’ve had boyfriends say, “You’re a shiksa. You’re pretty much screwed.” (Honestly, it was harder for me to try not to cuss than to not be Jewish!)
The next crucial step: the stereotypical advice of “just be yourself.” But mostly, I guess, I mean, share something of yourself with them.
Then there’s the best advice my dad gave me about being social: Ask them questions about themselves. Almost everyone loves talking about themselves. And that way you have a chance of finding out things you have in common to talk about and bond over!
If all else fails, just talk about how awesome their kid is. The one thing you (hopefully) all have in common is a mutual love of your partner. Parents usually love hearing about what an awesome job they did with their kids to make them so damn lovable.
Your turn, Homies. Any non-gendered advice for meeting the parents for the first time?