1.3k 15 Comments October 10, 2018 Individuation: stumbling toward emotional self-reliance Maybe the most obvious way to talk about individuation is to say that, in the context of my marriage, if there was a bad feeling, I would look to my spouse to help me with it. Over the years, this mean that basically I held him at least partially responsible for my sense of well-being. Then, suddenly, my sense of well-being was very much my responsibility alone… and ultimately, it always was. Read More 1.3k May 10, 2018 Let's talk about talking about your "sex number" The number of people I have slept with is higher than most women I've asked. At the end of the day, I'm not going to lie about my number — I am not ashamed. But I do wonder how I should talk about it in future dating scenarios. Anyone else with a high sex number want to give me advice about talking open and honestly about it? Read More 1.2k February 13, 2018 Projections: falling in love with ourselves through what we see in others Projecting on people, when it's blind, is pretty unkind. But if can catch yourself projecting — it's actually a hugely useful tool for self reflection. If you can be awake enough to the illusion to understand that the real issue isn't really about the other person, but WHAT you're projecting on that person… then you gain access to some remarkable insight into your own values, your own growth edges, and your own story. Read More January 23, 2018 6 ways to help an introverted friend find love (or to help yourself!) "Many or even most of my dearest friends are geeky introverts who are (unhappily) single. They express that they want to be in relationships and start families and I'd love to be able to help with some advice. How do I help my beloved nerdy home-lurkers?" We've got some tips… Read More May 31, 2017 The ethics of asking consent before you cry on a first date: Eavesdropping on a human sexuality professor, Part 2 Can we talk about consent? A lot of us are hyper aware of consent around physical acts, like, "Oh I'm doing this. Is that okay? Do you like this? Do you like that? Are you okay with me doing this? Is that too hard?" Last night on a date, I got into an interesting discussion about crying during sex and whether that's something you should seek consent for… Read More 123…5
1.3k May 10, 2018 Let's talk about talking about your "sex number" The number of people I have slept with is higher than most women I've asked. At the end of the day, I'm not going to lie about my number — I am not ashamed. But I do wonder how I should talk about it in future dating scenarios. Anyone else with a high sex number want to give me advice about talking open and honestly about it? Read More 1.2k February 13, 2018 Projections: falling in love with ourselves through what we see in others Projecting on people, when it's blind, is pretty unkind. But if can catch yourself projecting — it's actually a hugely useful tool for self reflection. If you can be awake enough to the illusion to understand that the real issue isn't really about the other person, but WHAT you're projecting on that person… then you gain access to some remarkable insight into your own values, your own growth edges, and your own story. Read More January 23, 2018 6 ways to help an introverted friend find love (or to help yourself!) "Many or even most of my dearest friends are geeky introverts who are (unhappily) single. They express that they want to be in relationships and start families and I'd love to be able to help with some advice. How do I help my beloved nerdy home-lurkers?" We've got some tips… Read More May 31, 2017 The ethics of asking consent before you cry on a first date: Eavesdropping on a human sexuality professor, Part 2 Can we talk about consent? A lot of us are hyper aware of consent around physical acts, like, "Oh I'm doing this. Is that okay? Do you like this? Do you like that? Are you okay with me doing this? Is that too hard?" Last night on a date, I got into an interesting discussion about crying during sex and whether that's something you should seek consent for… Read More 123…5
1.2k February 13, 2018 Projections: falling in love with ourselves through what we see in others Projecting on people, when it's blind, is pretty unkind. But if can catch yourself projecting — it's actually a hugely useful tool for self reflection. If you can be awake enough to the illusion to understand that the real issue isn't really about the other person, but WHAT you're projecting on that person… then you gain access to some remarkable insight into your own values, your own growth edges, and your own story. Read More January 23, 2018 6 ways to help an introverted friend find love (or to help yourself!) "Many or even most of my dearest friends are geeky introverts who are (unhappily) single. They express that they want to be in relationships and start families and I'd love to be able to help with some advice. How do I help my beloved nerdy home-lurkers?" We've got some tips… Read More May 31, 2017 The ethics of asking consent before you cry on a first date: Eavesdropping on a human sexuality professor, Part 2 Can we talk about consent? A lot of us are hyper aware of consent around physical acts, like, "Oh I'm doing this. Is that okay? Do you like this? Do you like that? Are you okay with me doing this? Is that too hard?" Last night on a date, I got into an interesting discussion about crying during sex and whether that's something you should seek consent for… Read More 123…5
January 23, 2018 6 ways to help an introverted friend find love (or to help yourself!) "Many or even most of my dearest friends are geeky introverts who are (unhappily) single. They express that they want to be in relationships and start families and I'd love to be able to help with some advice. How do I help my beloved nerdy home-lurkers?" We've got some tips… Read More May 31, 2017 The ethics of asking consent before you cry on a first date: Eavesdropping on a human sexuality professor, Part 2 Can we talk about consent? A lot of us are hyper aware of consent around physical acts, like, "Oh I'm doing this. Is that okay? Do you like this? Do you like that? Are you okay with me doing this? Is that too hard?" Last night on a date, I got into an interesting discussion about crying during sex and whether that's something you should seek consent for… Read More 123…5
May 31, 2017 The ethics of asking consent before you cry on a first date: Eavesdropping on a human sexuality professor, Part 2 Can we talk about consent? A lot of us are hyper aware of consent around physical acts, like, "Oh I'm doing this. Is that okay? Do you like this? Do you like that? Are you okay with me doing this? Is that too hard?" Last night on a date, I got into an interesting discussion about crying during sex and whether that's something you should seek consent for… Read More 123…5