Looking inward teaches me to accept myself as I am #Philosophy#identity April 25 2018 | Guest post by Heather Stop Projecting – print byStine Greve Related Post Being broken doesn't mean you're not strong (and capable of being loved) To love someone who has been broken is a brave thing to do. We have lived a life most know nothing about. To the broken,... Read more Trying to find your self-worth in the eyes of another is setting yourself up for severe disappointment. Being a people pleaser, I know this more than anyone. During yoga last night, I was instructed to look inward, to close my eyes and only see myself. To look inward toward myself for satisfaction. I spent the entire hour with my eyes closed just doing what felt right in my body and not trying to compete with the girl on the mat next to me. That simple choice to keep my eyes closed and look inward was incredibly awakening. It inspired me. Nowadays, there are so many ways to compare ourselves to others. Television and social media being the major avenues for me. I don't think it's terrible to compete or having a desire to better yourself, but, I think somewhere along the lines of ambition and aspiration, we stop really examining ourselves and finding what's best for ourselves. Looking inward gets forgotten somewhere along the way. I have spent my life looking outward, striving to keep everyone around me happy and trying to do what I thought I should do. But last night, I spent the time on my mat reflecting about the journey inward. My journey inward. That journey for me has been the longest and still continues every day. I have spent my life looking outward, striving to keep everyone around me happy and trying to do what I thought I should do. Until I started running and doing yoga, I don't think I ever took a single minute of my life to look inward. I never looked inside to see myself, to see what I needed. To examine who I was. Oscar Wilde once said, "Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives mimicry, their passions a quotation." How much of yourself is formed from other people's opinion of you? How much of you is really what you truly are? We live a life today of uber online and superficial connection. We have the ability to like and comment and essentially judge other people's lives. Thanks to social media, it's out there for everyone to see. I am no exception to this. I share and post and talk about my life online, usually the happy stuff, but I try to keep it honest. That joy can only come when I am completely myself and can be satisfied with who that person is. I see pictures shared online and have caught myself being envious of people who have the ability to run way more than I do, or who seem to have endless amounts of money, and I struggle with finding satisfaction in the daily grind of a 9 to 5. But I don't know if it's the yoga or just growing as a person, but the older I get the more I am learning to look inward at myself to find answers and solace. It's not something I was ever taught as a child. It is something I have learned as an adult. I realized in order to be truly happy, I have to know what I need to find joy. That joy can only come from inside of me. That joy can only come when I am completely myself and can be satisfied with who that person is. Related Post On unexpectedly finding love after feeling like I don't deserve it I gave bits and pieces of myself to people that never really earned it. I was hurt repeatedly, but was okay with that, because I... Read more I have talked about love and motherhood and all of the adventures I find myself going on, but the one thing through all of this has been learning myself. I still have to consciously make myself close my eyes and shut out the world around me and listen to what I need. Throughout the past year or two, I think it's what has kept me happy despite the turmoil and big changes in my life. I have closed my eyes to the judgement and the belief that my life has to look a certain way or be like someone else's to be meaningful. I am happy with where I am in life, and with who I am in this life. I know I am flawed and restless and can be a little scattered at times. I know I am hopelessly optimistic, but deep inside I have dark corners that can suck me in without warning. I can be impulsive but I am never dull. And despite the hurt I have felt and the hatred I have seen reflecting back at me, I can appreciate love and tenderness and give it in return. Because when I look inward, I am unapologetically myself and I am enough. Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Guest post written by Heather Heather is a mother to two boys, wife to an amazing woman and a runner of crazy long distances. Heather can usually be found writing, reading or running, in no particular order. https://marathonmom304.blogspot.com/ PREVIOUS Let's all move into this magical Hogwarts house for sale in Minnesota NEXT Your walls and floors will never be the same once they meet these funky & fun wall stencils Show/Hide comments [ 2 ] Thank you so much for this! This is a lesson I, unfortunately, am still trying to learn. About a year and a half ago, my husband and I took jobs in a city much larger than the one we had both lived in our whole lives. Since being here, I have struggled so much with comparing myself to others who are younger than I am and are further along in their career…people who seem to have enough money to take awesome vacations, when the cost of living here has knocked us on our ass…and on and on. I will probably read this article again…so it can sink in where I need it. Thank you for sharing! Reply Your so welcome! It’s always a lesson that can be relearned! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Subscribe me to your mailing list No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy.