We had our son five months ago and have been using condoms as birth control since he was born.
Much to my horror, I find myself pregnant again. My partner and I have discussed our options, and have decided we don’t want to terminate the pregnancy — but we also know that we don’t want to raise two children this close together. We’re older parents and my partner is disabled. We know it wouldn’t be fair to either child to try and stretch the time, money, and energy we have any further.
We know there are many amazing people out there who want to have children and cannot, so we feel our best option is to place the child for adoption.
Here’s our problem: one of my best and oldest friends has been talking about having a baby, and he and his husband are having a hard time adopting. We’ve joked about one of our friends carrying a child for them, but didn’t think it would actually happen… until I became pregnant.
I want to have a discussion with our friends about possibly adopting this baby.
There are a lot of factors to consider (are they really ready to be parents? Who is?), but I’m not sure where to begin.
I obviously need to figure it out rather quickly, as I won’t be able to hide my pregnancy for long.
How would you bring up the topic of adoption with one of your best friends?