My four-year-old has a new friend. The friend’s behavior (being destructive, kicking, hitting) is problematic, and my daughter has also started acting out to get a laugh from her friend. The trouble is my daughter ADORES her friend — she talks about her at home, wants her to come over all the time, have sleepovers, etc.
I feel like I have to calibrate my daughter when she comes home from her friend’s house, and though I hate to admit it I’d like to be able to ban my daughter from hanging out with her. I know this isn’t the best alternative (or realistic, because they see each other at our childcare provider’s home), and I imagine this isn’t the last friend of hers I won’t approve of. I’ve tried talking to her, but I don’t think talking is very effective for her age. Has anyone else dealt with this situation? — Anna