I don’t plan to stay married to the person I’m married to today
In which I analyze personal evolution and its role in long-term, monogamous, marriage. With every lesson I have embraced, with every tear I have released, and with every damn experience I have accrued, I have changed my opinion, my story, and my inner-most self, and so has my husband.
Married and celibate: Adjusting my relationship expectations in a sexless marriage
We’re barely in our thirties, but my husband and I are currently in a “sexless marriage” (defined as a couple who have sex “10 times a year or less”). I am writing this because I want other partners in similar situations to know that they aren’t alone.
Bisexual in a straight marriage
Coming out as bisexual to my husband was as strange as coming out to myself. I ended up speaking in so many circles that it took another conversation about two months later for him to realize that I was actually trying to come out to him. He had questions. I had questions. The biggest question was if I still wanted to be with him, or if coming out was also me realizing that I wanted more dating experience with other women.
Put yourself out there: How to become a penpal
I got the idea to start looking for penpals after reviewing the offbeat hobbies post. Someone said they wrote to the Amish. That is likely rewarding as well, but since I wanted the immediate gratification that only the Internet can bring (and the Amish are not known for being too talkative online), I pulled up Google and asked “how can I make penpals worldwide?” Boom. That easy.
How do you get back into the sexual saddle when you’re not able to ride the horse?
There’s a ton of information out there about how to get back into the sexual saddle, but not much about what to do when you’re not able to ride the horse, so to speak.
How to respond to religious LGBT condemnation
We’ve been dealing with some pretty intense levels of religious LGBT condemnation from my fiancee’s family. We have received many emails, phone calls, and letters asking us to give up our “sinful ways.” In the hope that it may help others find words, I thought I would share our responses here.
How a Roomba saved my marriage
Twenty minutes later I hear him running the vacuum for the 4th time in 4 days and I wonder just how much strain this is putting on our marriage. I “spontaneously” tidy up the bathroom and hope for the best. Enter the Roomba…
What living in a different city from my fiancé taught me about loving him, my home, and myself
I tried to avoid filing this arrangement under the “long-distance relationship” category, a title that felt overly indulgent in our situation. Yet there were still valuable lessons for us in this place of semi-separation and changes were made that I now treasure.