Category Archive

Relationships

Let’s talk about our partners, and how we negotiate sharing our homes and lives with them.

How to respond to religious LGBT condemnation

We’ve been dealing with some pretty intense levels of religious LGBT condemnation from my fiancee’s family. We have received many emails, phone calls, and letters asking us to give up our “sinful ways.” In the hope that it may help others find words, I thought I would share our responses here.

How a Roomba saved my marriage

Twenty minutes later I hear him running the vacuum for the 4th time in 4 days and I wonder just how much strain this is putting on our marriage. I “spontaneously” tidy up the bathroom and hope for the best. Enter the Roomba…

What living in a different city from my fiancé taught me about loving him, my home, and myself

I tried to avoid filing this arrangement under the “long-distance relationship” category, a title that felt overly indulgent in our situation. Yet there were still valuable lessons for us in this place of semi-separation and changes were made that I now treasure.

Am I the only consciousness among the flapping meat sacks? The Escalating Volume of Existential Terror

Sometimes, my partner Zack and I do not understand each other. This makes sense, given the complexity and inexact nature of language; I would go so far as to say it is part of The Human Condition. But there’s a particular misunderstanding that we have that I have also seen other people have. I call it “The Escalating Volume of Existential Terror.”

How can light and heavy sleepers share a bed?

Springless mattresses? White noise machines? Pillow barriers?

What are your sleeping hacks for light and heavy sleep arrangements?

Monogamists say the darndest things: The top 4 responses to coming-out as a throuple

The majority of people we’ve come out as a throuple to have said hurtful things, effectively shutting down what might’ve been a constructive conversation. Some of the rudeness stemmed from ignorance, and some of it was actually well-meaning. I hold strongly that these reactions are mostly made in panic, shock, or confusion. I would like to go over them. I hope that people who have been here can find some solace in this, and that — if any of you are ever on the receiving end of a coming-out — this entry prepares you to hear as openly as you can.

My family includes my “platonic wife”

Kira, the platonic wife in question, is sapiosexual, and we have known each other for about seven years; she and her heterosexual husband have been married for about two years. So why “platonic wife” instead of “best friend” or “really close friend”? Really it comes down to the fact that I consider her as important and as “legitimate” of a relationship as my relationships with my husband and partner.

Divorce press release: How do you gracefully announce a break up on social media?

After several years of marriage, my husband and I have decided to divorce. He and I both agreed we should post something on social media, but we’re not sure how to go about it or what to say.