Gifts to welcome your newly announced childfree friend into the fold

Childfree gifts to welcome the newly announced into the fold
Dog Mom Vinyl Die Cut Sticker from The Five 15

Being childfree (as in, choosing not to have children for any number of reasons) hasn't been and still isn't well accepted in a lot of circles, particularly more traditional ones. So the decision to declare yourself childfree to friends and family can be met with a lot of push-back. A lot of us (myself included) choose not to share that information with just anyone since it's not anyone's business but your own and your partner's. It can be scary to reveal something that may paint you in an inaccurate negative light.

If you find yourself in a situation where a friend has told you they have decided to be childfree, perhaps you'd like to give them a token of support, and these childfree gifts are an awesome solution. Whether they'll be a traveling adventure-seeker, an kick-ass aunt or uncle, a devoted fur parent, or none of the above, there's a way to say you support them at every turn…

Childfree gifts to welcome the newly announced into the fold
100% behind you card from Yellow Daisy Paper Co
Childfree gifts to welcome the newly announced into the fold
Adventure Fund art by Fiore Crafts
Gifts for childfree couples to welcome the newly announced into the fold
Some relatable advice in book form

More potentially helpful books here!

Childfree gifts to welcome the newly announced into the fold
Custom Couples Portrait by Ichigo Cake (because two can make a family)
Gifts for childfree couples to welcome the newly announced into the fold
"Congrats On Getting A Fur Kid" card from Pluma Paper
Gifts for childfree couples to welcome the newly announced into the fold
Cats not kids Vintage Floral side plate from Beau and Badger
Gifts for childfree couples to welcome the newly announced into the fold
Pitter Patter of cat feet magnet
Gifts for childfree couples to welcome the newly announced into the fold
If they are an aunt, a bracelet is a cute idea

More advice for childfree life

  1. Maybe…wait until that friend expresses that she is getting some bs until "gifting" this? I'm childless by choice, and while it isn't a "traditional" lifestyle for someone in my demographic group, it is such a minor aspect of my personality that highlighting it would seem absurd. It may not be this way for some people, but I don't see my choice not to have kids as an "opposite" choice or that I am "replacing" kids with my pets, job, hobbies, or whatever. It's just one decision among a million I'll make in my life. I think that people who have children assume the decision NOT to have them is as monumental or self-defining, when for many people it isn't (if I'm being honest, it's not even a "choice" to me, it's my natural default to not desire having children.) Just as many parents resent being defined by their kids, being defined by the choice not to have kids is also a squicky situation. Just my 2 cents, clearly people have their own experiences and know their friends best.

    • This, and it doesn't necessarily feel like something that's worth congratulating. I mean, great, but I don't see the need to reward a choice not to do something. :/ My husband and I have decided not to have kids (with the caveat that our minds MIGHT change in the next few years but we're okay if not) and I don't feel like I need a reward or to announce it to people. When people ask if we're going to have kids, I simply say "no, we don't want them, although we're open to our minds changing" and that's the end of it. I don't need a gift or "support" for something that's my choice. I don't need a gift for having a cat. I have a cat. Lots of people have cats. Some people have cats AND kids. It's not mutually exclusive.

      It might be a different situation for someone who is childfree NOT by choice– I can see a token of support being appropriate in that situation. But for someone who has weighed the pros and cons and has decided to focus on travel and doesn't feel any desire to reproduce, it seems kind of pointless to "reward" them for that.

      I have seen people who have thrown massive parties for 50th or 60th birthdays in lieu of getting married, and that makes sense, but this seems… a little unnecessary and maybe even inappropriate. Sort of like a participation trophy for existing.

      • I think it would be a nice/funny gesture for a friend who is complaining about unsupportive family, especially if you also are in that boat. More like a commiseration inside joke than a serious congratulatory gift.

        • Yeah, I think fun for a situation where your friend is like "my mom is relentless with the grandkid biz" and you send her a little thing. But to just be like "hey, heard you at Jimmy's bbq last week saying you don't want kids, here is a gift basket" is a little weird! Though, I mean, if it's a Swiss Colony basket? You can give me one of those for any reason at any time lol!

      • I get that sentiment, but can't we all use some more participation trophies for existing? Why not celebrate all the little choices, big choices, non-choices, and just… things? Why wait until a 50th or 60th birthday, or whatever – why not celebrate Tuesday 11AM? Or a sunny day? Yeah, sure, the gesture is unnecessary. Celebration is unnecessary. Reward is unnecessary. But it makes life more fun, raises oxytocin levels, and actually lengthens life expectancy. No, you don't *need* a gift for a choice, or for your cat, or for a holiday, or for your birthday, or for anything, really. But gift-giving is one of the five Love Languages, and is generally fun for people to do and experience (I'm actually not sure why I'm feeling the need to explain fun or gifts right now, but your comment just makes it seem like you're not interested in doing anything not "required" in life, or anything that optional and fun).

        So let's have some fun.

        Sure, if this might offend your friend, don't get it. I think it's common sense to not get things for your friends that might offend them. And, if you receive a gift that offends you, be gracious and say thank you for the thought, but then explain why the gift is insensitive. I think this is all pretty easy, really.

        I don't think anyone here is saying cats and kids are mutually exclusive, either. I don't think anyone is saying that having a cat or traveling replaces kids. The article specifically discusses the fact that many people who inform others of their child-free decision/inclination often face difficult push-back, and these are some fun and goofy ways to easily express support in what might be a tricky time for those people (without having to be too "deep). It's not a commentary on cats vs. kids.

  2. How about throwing an unbaby shower and really go all out, like that sentiment from SATC that people don't give you a "congratulations for going on vacation alone" set of flatware?

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