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Tattoos, photo shoots, and lessons learned since my marriage ended

It was such an exciting time in my life, getting engaged, planning my amazing offbeat wedding and enjoying the day. Then I was thrown a curveball a year and three months after our wedding date… My husband came home and told me he wanted a divorce. The thing is, I have learned so many valuable lessons from this experience, ones that I would not have had the opportunity to learn if life had not unfolded this way.

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On being raised as a "small person" instead of being "treated like a child"

The idea that a child was a child and nothing more was never really perpetuated in my home. I never felt that there was a role that I was assigned to or an expectation that I had to meet. Growing up I began to see that my parents had a far more interesting approach to raising me than I realized. I wasn't treated as a child growing up. I was treated like a person… a small person.

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Friends are the family we get to choose for ourselves

There are a couple of clichés that get that way because they’re so damn true. Some that have been true for our family of two is that friends are the gods’ apology for families, friends are the family we choose for ourselves, and friends walk in when everyone else walks out. My patchwork quilt of family is mostly made of beautiful friendships, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

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Different last names: How do I make our family sound more coherent?

I am a divorced woman who will be getting re-married soon. Part of me wants my daughter and I to have the same name, but I also don't want to be stuck with the name that is associated with such a crap time in my life. Since I can't change our child's last name to that of my husband, is there anything that I can do to make our new family sound more coherent?

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I'm not sure if I'm a virgin, or if I'll ever have sex again… and I'm happy

Asexual or demisexual is as close to "accurate" as I'm going to get for a label, I think. I have a sex drive, I have sexual fantasies, I masturbate, I can imagine being sexually attracted to someone I knew and trusted, but if my future self figures out time-travel and drops me a note to inform me that I'm never going to get laid, I would be a lot more interested in the implications for free will than I would be distressed at the thought of never having sex again.