I am wondering where and when my fellow mamas see it appropriate to step in during kid conflict. The media has (rightly, in my opinion) highlighted the occurrence of bullying and its negative, long-lasting effect on kids. As the mother of a long-haired boy who has already had feminine-flavored insults thrown at him by other kids, I’ve already had to make choices on when to step in to help him handle the situation.
My boy is going on five, and most other moms seem to have hit the point of “handle it on your own” with their kids. No tattling! No complaining! Deal with it! But I feel torn — I want my son to be able to handle his conflicts, but I feel like some of them are beyond the pale of what a kid should be left to deal with on their own.
What do you think: how do you decide when to let your kid(s) fight their battles, and when to stop potentially damaging situations?