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How I found personal freedom in a partnership

If you had described my current relationship to me before I was in it, I'd have walked — run! — away from the best thing I've ever known.

Turns out, I learned that I can be a more authentic me inside our relationship, because I'm loved and supported in a way that I often fail to love and support myself.

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How I got over my fear of losing myself in a relationship

As someone who spent years struggling between wanting to be in a relationship AND be super independent, I can relate to the fear of losing myself in a relationship.

But now that I've been in a relationship for seven years, I couldn't be happier! Part of what helped me get through my fear was asking myself these questions…

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How I faced my fear of the dentist: If it works for me (and cats) it can work for you

I'm not just afraid of the dentist. More accurately, I have a "shut down completely, cry when I even THINK about going, prescription drugs are not enough to calm me, once made a dentist too upset to continue working on my mouth, trauma response-level" fear of the dentist. Until this past year, I hadn't been to the dentist in almost 10 years!

I was recently talking to a friend, who also has a fear of the dentist, and she asked how I conquered my fear and went to the dentist, not once but THREE times this past year. My answer was that I did NOT conquer my fear, but I did do this…

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How can I get comfortable with the idea of being pregnant?

I'm TERRIFIED of getting pregnant. Like, it is literally the worst fear I have of everything I could encounter in the world. There's going to be this parasitic THING inside my body, screwing everything up: squishing my organs, messing with my hormones, and causing me pain, sickness, and constant discomfort.

"Don't Think of Ugly People": how parenting advice has changed

Ever feel constantly inundated with tips and tricks for raising kids? WELL, it turns out there's a reason for that: sharing parenting tips is just part of what humans do. This piece from The Atlantic compares and contrasts parenting advice from today (don't let your kids see a screen until they're two!) to parenting advice from the 1900s ("Pregnant mothers should avoid thinking of ugly people, or those marked by any deformity or disease; avoid injury, fright and disease of any kind.") and examines why parents are so hung up on all that information in the first place.