Navigating money issues with lower income roommates
I love my roomies, but while I have a sizable savings account and decent income, they are barely living paycheck to paycheck, even with help from family. Our rent is going up and though they’ve assured me they can afford it, I’m getting nervous. I don’t want to loan them money, but I do want to stay current on our bills.
Put yourself out there: How to become a penpal
I got the idea to start looking for penpals after reviewing the offbeat hobbies post. Someone said they wrote to the Amish. That is likely rewarding as well, but since I wanted the immediate gratification that only the Internet can bring (and the Amish are not known for being too talkative online), I pulled up Google and asked “how can I make penpals worldwide?” Boom. That easy.
How to respond to religious LGBT condemnation
We’ve been dealing with some pretty intense levels of religious LGBT condemnation from my fiancee’s family. We have received many emails, phone calls, and letters asking us to give up our “sinful ways.” In the hope that it may help others find words, I thought I would share our responses here.
What living in a different city from my fiancé taught me about loving him, my home, and myself
I tried to avoid filing this arrangement under the “long-distance relationship” category, a title that felt overly indulgent in our situation. Yet there were still valuable lessons for us in this place of semi-separation and changes were made that I now treasure.
Help! My parents want to move near me. What do I do?
How do I tell my parents that having them live that close is stepping on my opportunities for growth and freedom as an adult? What is the best way to explain that living near my parents has to be as much my choice as theirs?
Am I the only consciousness among the flapping meat sacks? The Escalating Volume of Existential Terror
Sometimes, my partner Zack and I do not understand each other. This makes sense, given the complexity and inexact nature of language; I would go so far as to say it is part of The Human Condition. But there’s a particular misunderstanding that we have that I have also seen other people have. I call it “The Escalating Volume of Existential Terror.”
Monogamists say the darndest things: The top 4 responses to coming-out as a throuple
The majority of people we’ve come out as a throuple to have said hurtful things, effectively shutting down what might’ve been a constructive conversation. Some of the rudeness stemmed from ignorance, and some of it was actually well-meaning. I hold strongly that these reactions are mostly made in panic, shock, or confusion. I would like to go over them. I hope that people who have been here can find some solace in this, and that — if any of you are ever on the receiving end of a coming-out — this entry prepares you to hear as openly as you can.
How do you deal with the “so… when are you going to get married” questions?
Lately every time we see family or friends though the conversation always comes around to, “So, when’s the wedding?” Our answers never seem to satisfy anyone, and it’s a bummer to feel like those closest to us no longer feel like our relationship is “enough,” even though we are really happy. Homies, does anyone have a really good script or advice for dealing with family and friends who want to pressure you about your relationship status?