Since he could ask for it, my son has asked to dress up in girl’s clothing — pink and frilly, pretty and shiny. It’s the only kind of clothing he gets excited about besides snazzy boy’s dress shirts. To him, all other clothing serves only to keep him from being totally naked. This is okay with me, aside from fighting my own society-embedded fears that make my first instinct to keep it in the house only (which has been going well).
My son is desperate to make friends, and so anyone who shows any interest in him is automatically his best friend, and he will vehemently defend them against any slight. He takes what these kids say much more seriously than what I say, and thinks they were incapable of lying. However, I found out that when my son told one of his “friends” he wanted to marry a boy one day this “friend” of his broke that down hard.
Now my son feels embarrassed about wanting to wear girl’s clothing, and even denies that he has the desire.
I don’t think he’s transgender, but I think he might be gay, and that makes it worse because he seems to be convincing himself that wanting to kiss or marry boys is bad, or “creepy.” He’s made it very clear that he doesn’t want to physically become a girl.
We live in a medium-sized conservative town that is really down on its luck, and my son isn’t going to find a lot of acceptance here. When we approached his school counselors about possible therapy or ideas, they recommended medication (which I’m not interested in).
Does anyone have any recommendations for where I can find positive resources for my son — and myself?