I know, I know — other people looooove to tell you how to raise your kids. After getting unsolicited comments from just about everyone you know (and strangers! So fun!), it gets really easy to just start tuning people out — and by people, I mean everyone. Brooke sent me an email saying it might be fun to ask around and find out what parenting advice people have received that actually did work — and it turns out you guys have tons of it (AND were super respectful while discussing!):
Amassing baby stuff
My mum told me not to bother buying toys and to give the kids pans and a wooden spoon instead. She was so right. — Danielle
Whether we’re talking co-sleeping, bed-sharing, or sleep training, it seems like SLEEP is the topic that you guys have received the most advice about. The results were all over the place (Co-sleeping is great! Sleep training rocks!), but it was cool to read how many of you changed what you were doing and loved it.
Sleep when the baby sleeps. My oldest is almost three and I still share almost every nap with them. — Andrea R.
When I was nursing/night parenting I took all clocks out of my bedroom. I was constantly checking the clock and wigging out about how much/little sleep I was getting. [Everyone] slept so much better after that. — Sanquinetta
[To try] sleep training. I resisted, but it worked like a charm and now we all sleep better. I know this isn’t for everyone, but it totally worked for us. — Brittney M.
[Trying] Co-sleeping. We thought a bassinet would be good for little Miss. I think she may have slept in it once. The only way anyone got any sleep was with co-sleeping. It’s not for everyone, but I was surprised that it turned out to be for us! — Cassandra S.
Letting my son sleep on his belly… my mom told me that all four of us would only sleep that way, and we survived. Teo sleeps sooo much better. (I should note that the APA says that belly-sleeping is unsafe for babies under six months. We waited until Teo was rolling over on his own to try this tip.) — Jill (Ed note: See also — Calculated risk, or why I let my kid sleep on his stomach)
Co-sleeping. My husband and I thought we would never let the little one sleep in our bed. It has been soothing for all of us. I think it has brought us all closer too, we have a very strong bond. The baby is always smiling too. I am nervous about putting him on his own and have been reading about how the primal people slept… they never left their young. So now I am thinking of what to do next and when to do it. — Heidi
We try to encourage independence and self-determination in our two-year-old, but after a few late nights of naked temper tantrums, we’ve decided to use declarations rather than ask permission for diapers and pajamas, after a certain point. And, the amazing part? She respects it! — Melody
Ignoring tantrums. I would always try to talk my toddler through it… which led to bigger tantrums. Then ignored him after the second child was born… worked pretty well. — Katarina
Reward charts! Our house was a battle zone until we started using them. I was resistant and skeptical. Three seemed too young to understand, I thought she would develop a “What do I get out of it?” attitude. Like when she would try to force a poop to score an M&M. We put them up and she went to bed peacefully the first night. She has been eager to do chores, bedtime has been a cinch. The rewards are proud reminders that she earned something. I was wrong. So, so wrong! — Jessica
Using rewards for pooping in the potty. I always figured it would happen in his own time, but with autism in the mix, I have had to be more creative because of the yuck factor. — Alexis
Ok, folks — these bits of wisdom are from Facebook, but I know there’s even MORE lurking. Tell me, tell me: what advice have people given you that you’re totally glad you finally tried?