I’m not a parent yet, but many of my close friends are fairly new parents. I’m doing my best to be supportive without being demanding or nosy. While the topics we discuss are different now than before kids, most of the time I think we’re getting along alright. Occasionally one of the new parents will make comments about wishing they were childless again, and I don’t know how to respond to these comments. I get blowing off some steam, but at what point is it more than just frustration and something I should be concerned with?
When I ask her, she says she’s fine and that I should ignore it, but it’s been nearly two years of “I wish I were childless again,” nearly daily. I’m growing increasingly concerned. I just want advice to know how to be more supportive — whether that means I relax and let her blow off steam, or I try to get someone else to hear the things she’s saying. — Bethany