When did your family stop co-sleeping?

Updated Oct 12 2015
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Jasper's been co-sleeping (for us, this means sleeping exclusively in our bed) with us since he came home from the hospital — it was something we always thought we'd do, and we've always been happy with the arrangement. When he hit twelve months, we started having discussions about when and how we'd transition Jazz to his own bed, and briefly set up his "big bed" in his "own room," but abandoned the idea after one failed nap attempt.

I'm the first to admit that we also didn't really want him to leave our bed, we just kind of momentarily gave in to all of the questions ("When's he going to be in his own bed?!"). Once that experiment failed, we decided that two years old would be our cut-off.

Now that he's on the brink of turning two, none of us are interested in changing up the way we sleep. Our arrangement has definitely morphed throughout the months — now that Jasper's much larger, he sleeps on either side of us. Our bed is a King size, and also on top of another mattress which is on the ground. If he happens to roll off (it happens! Rarely, but it does), it's easy enough to scoop him up and get him back in bed. Except for random eye pokes and accidental baby-finger-scratches, there's nothing that makes us want to stop.

But yet … I still wonder. I keep reading all of these accounts of kids who seem to wake up one day and decide they want their own bed. Does this really happen? Is transitioning to a bed something we'll have to steer, or should we just roll with whatever Jasper wants to do? Those of you who co-slept until toddlerhood, how did you know when it was time to transition to a new arrangement? What did you do?

  1. We co-slept (also meaning baby in our bed) for… maybe the first six months? Around 3 months or so we started having our son start in his crib (first in our room, and then in his own room), but then at the first wake-up of the night, he'd come to bed with us and sleep there until I had to get up and go to work, at which point I'd put him back in his crib.

    At about 10 or 12 months, he started being very wakeful when he was in bed with us, and so we started putting him back in his own crib if he didn't fall asleep while nursing, and we all started sleeping better.

    Truth be told, I was a little sad to see him go to his own crib, but letting him stay with us meant NO ONE was sleeping well because he saw mommy and daddy and wanted to play/crawl over us/pull the cat's tail/what have you.

  2. My son is now 5. He gave up sleeping with us in and around 4 because he wanted his own bed. However, we still wake up and find him in our bed probably two days a week. He toddles from his bed, and uses his stealthy ninja skills to sneak in.

  3. We started out with the bot in our bed but, as much as we wanted that to work, we slept horribly. So I built the co-sleeper. She slept in that until she could roll and crawl. Then we moved her into her crib. Saying that, she always napped in her crib and did so without ever complaining. There were many reasons for us doing this, but a big part of it was it was we had a nanny share and thus needed 2 places for babies to sleep and one was a pack-n-play the other was the crib. Rather than have her get used to something that wasn't her bed or her room, it just made sense.

    Transitioning to her room took no effort at all and when she wakes up extra early we often bring her to our room to fall back to sleep. Right now, she rarely sleeps if she's in our room. I'm actually looking forward to when she gets a bit bigger and can sleep with us without fussing through the night, it'd be nice to curl up with her and take a nap.

    • God, I DREAM of the day when Tavi will be still long enough to get in a good long cuddle or even a nap. After about 6mo, dude has been too busy mooooving to slow down for family snugs.

      • Sounds just like Miles! If I'm lucky I get "drive by snuggles" as he sprints by. Kid doesn't even stop wiggling when he's asleep!

  4. We've just kinda started a transition – she was in the cot for naps to avoid stealth waking and destruction (or stealth waking and using the 'toilet' sign to the air then peeing on our mattress). Slowly she started associating her cot with sleep and would crawl up in it after we took the side off – she wouldn't go to sleep in there but it was one of her 'I want to go to bed' messages. I just started to not feed her all the way to sleep and now she mostly sleeps through in her cot in our room, and crawls in around 5-6am for a feed and snuggles.

    I miss having her in our bed but she's gone from two-four wakings at night to none. I think it's partly to do with the fact I'm breastfeeding her. She's just on 20 month.

  5. I was never a co-sleeper as an infant. I didn't co-sleep with my mom till my father went on night shift when I was about 5. From then on, it was impossible for me to sleep in my own bed. I can remember bedtime being so scary when I had to sleep in my own room, monsters and robbers filled my night. I fought and cried so badly that my mom and dad eventually gave in and I slept in their room. I did this until the summer before my freshmen year of high school when I finally just wanted to sleep alone.
    So…From personal experience, I would say to stop co sleeping as early as possible. Or have a child become who I was…scared to sleep in their own bed till they were 14!

    • MMM! Very interesting!

      While this isn't my experience exactly, but my parents divorced when I was young and I quite often slept with my mom sometimes for weeks at a time, even in high school. I think we both didn't want to be lonely.

      • My sister was like this with my mom as well. After my sister was born, we moved and my mom just didn't sleeping in the bed that my dad had bought, and would roam the house at night switching beds until she discovered that she liked the downstairs guest room best. They had kicked me out of their room around the age of 4. My sister however, continued to sleep next to mom into high school, even though she had a bed of her own. I should say that they are VERY similar people, Whit is the spitting image of my mom.

    • I'll issue the disclaimer that I'm not a parent, just a psych student who looks forward to a future of parenting.

      I wonder, though, if *starting* co-sleeping at toddlerhood or past that can lead to difficulties for the child, particularly if it's for a particular reason. Children can pick up on a lot. Guest.R. said that they started co-sleeping at 5 because of their father suddenly working nights – I'm guessing that their parents may have felt and expressed some anxiety about the safety of the family at night once that change was made. It's understandable how that could make a child fearful and unwilling to sleep alone.
      I think this story has a lot to offer to parents in similar situations, but I don't think it generalizes well to all people who have co-sleeping situations.

    • My sister slept with our parents (reluctantly on their part, but she's good at manipulating them with tantrums) until she was well into puberty! She's 20 and still sleeps in their bed if she's home alone. So while I'm looking forward to cosleeping with a bassinet, I'm also going to encourage an early transition.

    • After we moved (a full year after my parents had divorced) my sister and I started sleeping my mom's bed. Well, technically I'd generally end up on the floor next to the bed, as I sleep like an egg beater. We would have been about 7 and 9 at the time. It continued for several years, gradually moving towards all sleeping alone again. Funny, until this post, I had never really considered it to be "co-sleeping".

  6. My daughter is 5 1/2 and still sleeps with me she has had her own bed since she was 3 for whenever she is ready to sleep in her own bed but for now it works well for the both of us and we are happy with it.

  7. Every single one of my kids have been vastly different. Johnathan wouldn't sleep in my bed at all. Even in the first few months, he would startle and awaken so easily. The most he ever did was sleep on the floor if he had a nightmare. Ryan slept in my bed for the first 6 months and then transitioned easily to the crib, but was back in our bed around 2 years old or so until 3 1/2. Aleya has coslept with us since birth and just turned 4 and is just NOW starting to accept the idea of sleeping in her own bed. Lyrik slept in his own crib since birth (Aleya was a wild sleeper and made Mark nervous to have the baby in bed with so many people, lol) but since we've moved he refuses to sleep anywhere but right in my arms… and I don't mind one bit, except when he kicks my pregnant bladder… then it's no bueno, lol!

  8. well im not much help. my daughter came out of the womb wanting to be independent :p we breastfed for as long as i could get her too, which, unfortunately, was only about 4.5 months. thats when we started putting her in her own crib because no one was sleeping well together. it took her a month to sleep all through night in it, but she pretty much wanted to be in it. she would get up real early and have a bottle and then fall back asleep with me, but after a few mnths of that she didnt want to anymore. she is now 17 mnths and not much of a snuggler anyways, but loves to give kisses and short hugs. i really am hoping my next is more snuggly and will still be breastfeeding at 17 mnths.

  9. Lyra is almost 2 too, and thats our plan. For her 2 year birthday, a new bed, not in my room. We will see how it goes. I love cuddling with her.

  10. My parents never did co-sleeping with infants/young babies, but they were "blessed" with children who liked crawling into their parents bed when they were a bit older. I mostly slept in my own bed, but my brother routinely got up at night went to the bathroom and then into my parents room, woke up in the morning and accused them of kidnapping him. My mother used to complain about feeling like a sardine with a child crammed into each of her sides… Of course we also had lots of fun some days.
    It stopped being a regular thing, but we were always welcome. There was that time when my rabbit died (it was very squicky) and I slept in my parents bed for a month when I was ten or so.
    So, I guess it all depends on the people involved. My parents were kind of bothered by my brother always crawling around on their bed in his sleep (he was an active! sleeper), but not enough to get up and put him back into his own bed.
    And later on I guess we were all (relatively) happy with how things were working.
    As I said, my brother and I were always used to going asleep in our own beds in a seperate room (we even shared for a while while we were small) though, and I do think that this is a skill that should be aquired, so absolute timeline, but maybe the matter of whether this would help when thinking about sleeping somewhere else entirely, like a friends house, or a class trip.

  11. My son shared a room with me for about 6 months when we had to unfortunately double up with relatives, as soon as I got my own space again he was back in his bed. It was hard at first and I would find him in my bed in the mornings but his independence kicked in and he started wanting his own space as well. He is almost 3 now and he hasn't even attempted bed time with us in over a year. I think maybe it's about being persistant without being mean, and never be afraid to let your child use their beautiful vocal cords.

  12. I co-slept with my boys until they were 2, then started to transition them into their own beds in their own room. My firstborn was in his bed fulltime by the time he was 3.5yo (with a lot of starting in his bed and waking up to move to mine, or starting in mine and transferring to his). My second born is 4.5yo and finally spends more nights in his own bed than mine, although he still comes in to our bed 1-2 times out of the week. But it is progress. πŸ™‚

  13. My son is the definition of "one day he just woke up and BAM". That's the way he handled everything. Sleeping through the night, potty training, giving up the bottle. He did the same thing with transitioning into his own bed, in his own room. He liked the independence, but he would often wake up in the middle of the night to find his way to my bed. That's when I started a bedtime routine. It's not exactly the same every night, but it roughly consists of bath time, teeth brushing, talk about what we want to do the next day, and then end it with a bedtime story and hugs and kisses goodnight. I'm not sure why it worked, but it did.

  14. At about 15 months it was apparent that none of us were sleeping well — my son is a shifty sleeper, and he spends most the night flopping, kicking, digging elbows into whatever fleshy parent he finds first, and kicking all the blankets off. That said, despite waking up grumpy he wanted NOTHING to do with sleeping in his crib after 15 months of nursing to sleep next to mommy and daddy.

    So we had to guide it. Lots of snuggles, reading, and more tears than I would have cared for, several false starts and failures, and finally at almost two he sleeps comfortably in his bed 98% of the time, even through the night for the most part.

    He still comes to bed with us in the mornings, and occasionally we nap together. He naps twice as long in bed with us as he will alone.

  15. I'm not a momma yet, but from my own personal experience when I was a child… my parents put me in my own bed by the time I was 3 (hmmm funny, looking back this was around when my mom conceived again…) but I would still end up climbing into their bed every night. Eventually my mother solved this by lying down with me in my bed at night and snuggling me to sleep, then getting up (I know not everybody has the luxury of doing this, she was a SAHM). I think I stopped sleeping in their bed completely maybe by 6 or 7, save for those nights with scary thunderstorms where we basically had a family bed! πŸ™‚

  16. Our little guy is almost 2 and we're in the same boat. He's coslept with us since birth, and apart from the occasional kick in the face, we love it.

    I should add though that when he was younger, he was an all-night nurser We have another on the way though so we've decided to sidecar our crib (which has never been used) for the new baby so our toddler can continue to sleep where he always has, if he wants to. If he wants his own room, we're fine with that too of course.

    This blog post has always given me much strength and guidance when pondering our sleep choices: http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/04/02/baby-led-sleep/

    • Oops, I tried to edit but got caught by the clock. Anyway, my son was an all-night nurser up until 13 months. I don't think I would have survived that first year without cosleeping. I barely survived it anyway even without having to get up every time he wanted a snack.

      But every kid is different and a cosleeping kid is no more likely to be afraid to sleep alone than a kid who has always slept alone. I slept in my own bed from time immemorial but had plenty of fears about it at various points in my childhood.

    • This link has made me feel so much better about EVERYTHING to do with how my 5 mos old baby sleeps (or doesn't sleep). The questions from others have given me so much anxiety – and all the advice on how to help your child sleep, which contradicts all my instincts. Maybe after reading this blog I can relax and let her be the person she is…wherever or however she decides to sleep! Sincerely, thanks.

  17. My husband asks this question about once a week! (We're due in a month.) My stock answer is "as long as it works," which, based on the responses here, seems about right!

  18. My mother and I co-slept until I was well over 7 because my father was in the Navy and would be gone for 6+ at a time. Now that I'm a mother my son co-sleeps with my husband and I, thankfully I have a husband that loves having our little one in bed with us. Our son does have his own bed thats just waiting for him to be ready, until then there will be little toddler hands stealing the covers.

  19. Stephanie, that's a great picture! We haven't co-slept in a long time, so I have no real input here, other than do what works and follow Jasper as much as you can. Aly's link is very good and I just sent it to some friends.

  20. My son stopped sleeping with us, meaning at all, not even to snuggle into bed in the morning, when I weaned him at two years old. He actually preferred to sleep in his own bed. That lasted until his little brother was born. Now it is more like musical beds, couch, crib, floor, etc. every night. I do love it, but I also looking forward to the peaceful nights.

  21. My parents waited 11.5 years after their last child to have another. She is a princess. πŸ™‚ She slept in my parents bed until she was 8. Never a day in her beautiful log crib my dad hand constructed. She slept sweetly with a hand on each of my parents ears for the first 8 perfect years of her life. The day came when my parents wanted their own bed back….so my mom started by moving her clothes from their bedroom to her own…and playing with her toys in her room vs all around the house. They brought her to the store and had her pick out new bedding. Then bought her a sweet yellow lab puppy. She hasn't slept with my parents since. πŸ™‚

  22. Our daughter co-slept on and off until she was 1.5 (when she weaned herself). At that point she slept in her crib pretty much full-time for 9 months. At about 2.5 she was back in the bed in the middle of the night, but since she is so kicky she starts in her room in her own bed and now sleeps on a mattress beside our bed if she needs in our room. As far as we are concerned, as long as she is in her own room long enough for us to have sex before she comes to our room, we're good πŸ˜‰

  23. We co-sleep with both our kids, who are 3.5 and 1. The older will occasionally (very occasionally) ask to lie down by himself, and when he does the rest of us just wait for him to fall asleep. Our "bed" is two double beds pushed together, though, so that helps a lot with comfort.

  24. I was never cut off. I grew out of it. I'm pretty sure in some cultures people sleep with their families…forever. At least they did on the asian soap operas I watched.

  25. I'm not a parent yet, but I have MUCH younger siblings. My sister was forced out of my parents bed when my little brother was born. They could NOT handle two children in the bed kicking them all night. Honestly though, once she got to kindergarten, sleeping with mommy and daddy was just so "uncool" anyway. My brother is now in kindergarten and is clinging to "the big bed" for dear life. The one thing I will say is my parents have no sex life thanks to small children wedged in between them for the last decade and I think it's really affected their relationship in a negative way. It's not something I enjoy discussing with them considering they're my parents, but it's true.

    • I have a friend who still co sleeps with her 11 year old and 8 year old every other night. Her husband is with them the nights she is not. That means she and her husband never sleep together. It has caused some issues. I don't mean this as an anti-co-sleeping posting at all. But, it does seem that the larger the kids get, the harder it is, and this kind of solution is a bit unfortunate.

    • I think if two people ant a sex life, they will find a way. It seems like an excuse to say that kids in a bed prevents sex from happening. Sure, you may have to be a little more creative or deliberate about making it happen but what parent doesn't? Most co-sleepers who are doing it just do it elsewhere in the house, after the kids go to bed or during nap time.

  26. Our wee man is 10 months and we sort of semi co-sleep meaning he starts off in his cot beside our bed and then comes into our bed around 3am. At the minute we have no intention of stopping as it works for all three of us. Ideally I would like him to be in his own room by the time bambino number 2 comes along(not on the horizon just yet) as he's a very light sleeper so i wouldn't want him to be disturbed too much with a newborn waking for feeds.

  27. I co-slept with my single parent dad and still have vivid memories of my then step mother moving in and Not Being Okay With This, it was was an odd reaction when I was 5 and now I'm 23 it smacks as unsettling claiming behaviour.

    I'm from a very large extended family and we've got a history of cot death so babies tend not to co sleep(I had a heart monitor as a babe so co-sleeping made more sense), but after the age of two every one piles in for sleep overs at Papas house. A lot of siblings do have their own beds but co-sleep through choice.

  28. My 8 1/2 month old son was co-sleeping with us up until about 2 weeks ago. He had been getting more and more wiggly and hard to sleep with and the last night he slept with us he woke up every hour and cried (he wasn't teething and didn't seem to be in any physical pain). We couldn't figure out what was wrong. The next night he started the same thing, waking up crying every hour. I took him into his room and he looked at the crib and smiled. I laid him down in his crib and he went to sleep right away. I was preparing for an eventual battle to get him into his own bed for the night and could hardly believe that he decided on his own that he was ready. He had been waking to nurse several times a night in bed with me and he now wakes an average of once a night to nurse and goes right back into his own bed. We are happy to have more space for us in our queen sized bed but I do miss snuggling all night.

  29. I just recently started getting my 3yo into his own bed in our room. There's just no room/comfort with my ever expanding belly (30wks). Two weeks in, he's still waking up once a night, but otherwise we're good. He also recently weaned a few weeks ago, so we're full of changes at our house with the familial addition on the way.

  30. I've never thought much about co-sleeping before because no one in my family has ever done it. My parents were of the "cry it out" school of thought and we were always in our own crib/bed from birth.

    Sleeping in my parents bed or even entering their room at night was absolutely forbidden. I remember having nightmares and singing to myself (hopefully loud enough) in the hopes of luring my mother into my room to comfort me.

    • My parents weren't quite that bad, but they were of the "cry it out" school. I could crawl in with them in the mornings although they worked to cure me of that since my wake up time was a bit early when they wanted a little more sleep and if I crawled in I wanted to be awake. Sleeping with them was a treat, something to do when only one of them was home or I needed some comforting. I still did it occasionally into my teens, although only with my mum. I kick, though, so generally my parents were happy to have me in my own bed. Not sure what my guy and I will do although as we already share the bed with 2-3 cats there will be some serious negotiation.

      • I can relate. My parents bedroom was not forbidden, but we were not allowed to leave our beds after bedtime! And I remember rules like 'you can't leave you room before 7 am'. But whenever I had a nightmare, I could go to my parents, they would let me sleep with them or my mom would wake up, go to my room and sing for me until I was at peace again. But this was all when I was older than 4, I guess. My parents had 3 babies in three years (I'm the oldest), so I guess co-sleeping was not in the picture. Imagine having 3 toddlers in your bed!
        And snuggling in my parents bed was a privilege.. on birthdays etc. it was extra fun! When my dad was on trips abroad, we could sleep with my mom in turns. I guess there is some sense in making your (parental) bed special.

  31. I co-slept with my Nonnie till I was about 11. I had always had my own room (with a bed) right across the hall. Sometimes I would sleep there with my sister or cousins, but, if no one was spending the night, I co-slept.
    The bond Nonnie and I have now (I'm 24) is just… I just wouldn't trade it for anything in the whole world.
    I'm all for it… and I agree that someday they just want their own bed. Maybe they'll be 2… maybe 4… maybe 11 πŸ™‚

  32. My step-son still co-sleeps with his mother. He is 7, and while I don't mind what she does in her home, it has become a serious issue at home with me and my husband. Little man gets upset every single time he spends the night at our house (2 nights a week) because Daddy won't sleep in bed with him. We have been dealing with this issue for years now (since he was 3). On top of that, he wakes us up every night between 1 and 3AM to ask hubby again to come to bed with him. Sometimes hubby is so tired, and knows that I am so grumpy and exhausted from this constant routine that he will go get in bed with him to quiet him, exacerbating the situation. I don't know how to break him of the habit, but I am assuming it will have to start with his mom. It's not my place to tell her how to raise her son, but it is becoming such a problem in our house that it is not only affecting our sex life, but our mental health. His mom is single, and I doubt she intends to ever re-marry. I keep reading that a lot of single parents co-sleep with their children, but what happens when it affects the household of the non-single parent? Am I being selfish in hoping that she will stop co-sleeping with him because it is now affecting us in our home?

    • I really resented my step mum because I saw that the change was led by her, it didn't work well because I was just left to cry it out.

      I'd suggest a "come to jesus" with your partner and his ex. Co-sleeping is awesome if it works for every one involved but in this situation it obviously doesn't. You can't blame the child or your partners ex, it is frustrating for you but you need a game plan.

    • Maybe you could try to change your perspective. If your stepson is only with you 2 nights a week, does that really have to harm your sex life when you can have sex and be alone with your husband in your bed the other 5 nights a week? I'm sure your stepson wishes he got to spend more time with his dad and the desire to sleep with him is probably part of that.

  33. My daughter slept with me until she was 4, and there were several nights after when she would come to my room in the middle of the night. Around 6 she stopped the midnight creeping. My son, now 5, sleeps with my daughter, now 9, yet still comes to my room on random nights. All is well, and they will let you know when they are ready to be alone.

  34. This is interesting, as far as I know co-sleeping is not common in NZ, certainly no one I know does it, and I remember campaigns against it due to the risk of smothering newborns. I'm guessing these risks are over stated?

  35. Red – I'm sorry, but I do think you're a little out of line here. Even calling it a "problem" throws up a red flag for me – that is not the attitude you should have when easing a child out of a habit – the more you make him feel uncomfortable, the more he is going to need comforting in a way he is used to. If your husband is having difficulty getting your step-son to sleep alone at your house and you're really against the idea, perhaps enlist his mother to help explain to him about the differences when he is at home and when he's at daddy's. If it comes from all involved and is explained in a gentle way that he isn't being rejected maybe you can work past this "problem". Also having his father read him to sleep and then sit with him (not lay in bed) when he wakes until he falls back asleep might help.

  36. Argh, lost my first comment.

    My partner and I share a bedroom with our child and a home with his mother, and we also have opposite hours — he works by day and I'm in school at night — and we still have a sex life. Where there is a will, there is a tired but determined way.

    We wanted to bedshare, but when our child was born she turned out to be somebody who didn't sleep well in our bed, so we took the side off her crib and pushed it against our bed. Since her sleeping surface didn't shift when we moved, she slept better. Now, at 15 months, she sleeps her in crib until the second night nurse, around midnight, then comes into our bed to nurse and sleeps with us till morning. We're thrilled about this.

    Our feeling is that she will prefer independence to the company of boring old mom and dad all too soon, so we're making hay while the sun is shining. I was an only child raised by a single mother and while I had my own room, I preferred sleeping in her bed (unless we were fighting) right up until I moved out. I don't imagine a bed with not one but two snoring parents thrashing around in it will be so appealing to our child for that long, but she is most welcome to stay as long as she likes.

  37. Not a mom, but was a live-in-auntie/nanny for my sister. In the reading I've been doing there seems to be some cross cultural support for children sleeping more contentedly within easy earshot of family. Multiple beds in the same room seems like a great thing to offer children that doesn't seem to be happening much. I know I enjoyed halving a room with my sister until I was 8 and she was 11. After that we chose to push our beds up against the dividing wall and tap messages to each other.

  38. I have a question for long time co-sleepers. We are co-sleeping with our newborn now, and I love it, but what about sex?? We have a cosleeper attachment, which I can see using for her while she's still tiny and we'd like full use of the bed but when you have a toddler, what do you do? Or for those who don't HAVE a co-sleeping attachment? It's something I have wondered about often.

    • Our son has slept in bed with us since he was a newborn. He's 21 months now. The answer to your question is: couch, guest bed, or our bed when he happens to be agreeable to going down in his crib or elsewhere for either naps or the first part of the night. It's not ideal but livable and he'll only be this small and wanting to cuddle for such a short time in the grand scheme of things.

  39. With our BF son we exclusively co-slept for a few months, then once he got too good at snuggle-herding us off the bed, we transitioned him to a bassinet in our bedroom for some naps and the part of each night when he wasn't nurse-sleeping. At 6 months, we moved him to a crib in his own room (because we were all kinda waking each other up) and he suddenly started sleeping 8-9 hour stretches through the night. Yeah, sleep! Every morning, when he awoke we'd bring him into our room so we could get a little more shut eye while he had some boobies…

    Now he is 2 years old, has been fairly recently weaned, and still comes into our bed to snuggle most mornings. He likes it. We like it. At some point, I reckon we'll stop… but until then it suits us all fine.

    So. That said, it doesn't sound like any of you are bothered by the co-sleeping, so why not just wait until someone is ready for a change and proceed from there?

  40. My children never ever slept with me at first, they started out in there own rooms in a crib from their first day home but when my oldest boy was about 2 he got really sick for about a week and a half and I had him sleep in my bed while he was sick, and he is now 5 and he is still sleeping with me. I think the best way to stop co sleeping is to never start my 20 month old has never sleep with me and I don't think I will allow him too lol. Now that my oldest is starting school in the fall I am having the hardest time getting him to sleep in his own bed!!

  41. This may make me sound ignorant, or maybe this has been asked many times already–

    How on earth are partners able to have sex with a toddler in their bed? Do you just…stop?

  42. We bed-shared with our son until about 5 months. I wanted to continue so much, I loved waking up together. But he was moving around SO much, that both my husband and I weren't getting any sleep. We'd spend the whole night moving our little one back into the middle of our king-sized bed. After one too many kicks in DH's groin or head-butts into my nose, we decided to give the crib a try. He made the transition very easily. I was actually a little heartbroken that he didn't put up a fight.

    Now at nearly 22 months old, I still bring him to bed with us when he's sick or if he wakes up earlier than normal to try and get a little more sleep out of him. On chilly mornings, he likes to cuddle with his mama. But I usually don't get any sleep once he's in bed with me, but I still love the cuddles.

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