About a year ago my whirlwind romance began with a marriage and now we’re talking (more or less) amicably about divorce. Now we’re dealing with the stress of doing a military divorce, which state do we file in, how to divide the bills, and how do we even begin to address a new version of a relationship or dare I say it, friendship?
After a few tense conversations, with some flat-out arguments involving a harsh word or two, we’ve decided to be friendlies, and to call a cease fire. And now I’m left in this no-man’s land of we-still-live-together but we’re not really “together.”
For the most part we live out our lives as roommates, he takes out our fur babies, and I do the laundry. We don’t sleep in the same bed, but we do hang out as normal friends who just so happened to be legally bound (at least for a little while longer) to include ordering Chinese and arguing over Netflix.
After we sign the paperwork, where do we go from here? Do we drift apart as adults and friends usually do or stay involved in each other’s lives? Can we ever get past “what might have been” and move on to “this is where/who we are now”? -Ang
We definitely talked about this topic over on Offbeat Bride:
But we’re willing to admit that a wedding planning site may not be the best place to discuss divorce. So let’s hear it from the Homies who’ve been there/done that. How did you — could you — stay friends during and after your divorce?