I have a nine-year-old stepson. I’ve been in his life since he was two-years-old. We’ve always split time 50-50 between the houses. My partner and I are definitely offbeat. We’re tattooed, politically radical and activist-y, feminist, intentionally unmarried, and atheists. Around the time my stepson was four, his biological mom “found Jesus” and joined an evangelical, fundamentalist church. Needless to say, this was a difficult transition. Up until now it’s been frustrating because his mom had tried to impose her values on our household.
BUT NOW! Now, our little dude is coming to our house and evangelizing to us, trying to convert us. The other day he told us he announced to his church that we were atheists and asked the entire church to pray for us. I’m angry at mom, but I’m even more sad. I feel like he’s a kid I don’t even know anymore. My partner was raised in a similar household and is dealing with it better than I am.
I don’t want to push him away, but I feel it happening. How do I continue to support him without supporting these hurtful ideas? — Suzy